Budget Frustrations

posted 5 months ago in Money
Post # 2
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yikes, sorry for the stress.

In budgeting, there is a big difference in what you WANT to spend and what things ACTUALLY cost. I am guilty of that too. I can say I want to spend, say, $15k on a car, all in. But I also want XZY features, this brand, etc etc.  and when reality sets in, I have to pick priorities. 

it’s kind of like the old business saying – Good/Cheap/Fast. Pick 2.

if the budget was a hard stop at $5k, then you plan a different event. if those things you listed above are more important, then you spend the money. 

Just make sure to keep finances in a constant communication throughout the marriage, so you don’t run into bigger issues!

 

Post # 3
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

So you have some options and a bit of time before July.

1. See if you fiance can fit in his suit. If not, would he be willing to shed a few pounds in the next few months?

2. Cakes can be pricey, are there other dessert options you can do to save money on a custom cake?

3. Do you need to rent a speaker? Can you see if you can find one to borrow or have you shopped around for this and get the best price?

4. String lights… can you borrow a ton of Christmas white string lights from friends and do those instead of buying more decorative ones?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

None of these are “necessary”. Have you budgeted out everything else on your list? Maybe go over everything with your fiance and see where you can cut down. Ask him what else is a priority, and consider what YOU think is a priority. Ex – are xmas lights really necessary? They will be very expensive in April, but would have been much cheaper in January. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Hey, chalk this up to a miscommunication between the two of you and come up with a compromise.  I don’t think he gets final say in this and either do you.  

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Keeping to a budget is tough when planning a wedding. Literally everything was more expensive than I thought it was going to be. My fiancee and I decided what was important to us and where we wanted to spend the money. For us food and venu were the most important and favours were at the bottom of the list. It sounds like you have almost all of the important stuff. Maybe talk to your fiancee about the rings not coming out of the wedding budget since it’s something you will wear for the rest of your life. Also, in the long run spending an extra $1000 or $2000 on your wedding to get what you want isn’t a ton of money. If you think about how much time it takes you to save that much money. Maybe it’s 3 months of saving, even if it’s more it’s not a lot of timeover years.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Personally, I think a well made suit is a good purchase because he will look great on his wedding day and can use it afterwards.  That’s money well spent IMO

Post # 10
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Maybe it is time to sit down and compromise?  Maybe going from thinking you were going to spend $5,000 of your own money to $0 of your own money due to the gift isn’t reasonable?  What if you and FH contributed $2500 to the $5000 gift and call it a day?  I know if I thought I was going to be spending $5000 and realized I would only have to spend $2500 I would be thrilled.  Maybe bring a list of the extra things that need funding to show your FH how the money could be used?  Being on a smaller budget is tough but it honestly sounds like you have done well so far and just need a bit of extra funds to pull it all together.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

Have you sat down with your fiance and showed him the specifics of what things cost?  I think you need to make him a partner in coming up with alternative solutions/cheaper options.  If he hasn’t been involved in talking to vendors he may not have a realistic idea of what things cost.

Post # 12
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

ktb19 :  It sounds like you’ve done an amazing job with the wedding planning and keeping the costs down where you can. Wedding planning is not easy! I’ve also had my moments of getting overwhelmed with the cost of things! 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

ktb19 :  you may already know this but just in case – Costco online has 18 mini bouquets (which are decently sized) for $100. You can’t pick the individual flower types, but I’ve ordered them for showers and they are very nice and the price cannot be beat. If you aren’t picky and just want something fresh, pretty, and colorful they are a great option! 

Post # 15
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

ktb19 :  Love this update. Sounds like you guys had productive communication – yay! A wedding is just a day… but a healthy marriage is so important. Happy for you 🙂

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