Post # 1
ok so i carefully carefully budgeted for my wedding. i had a certain amount i wanted to spend that i thought would get me the wedding i wanted without going crazy. i’ve been careful and not even entertained things like an ice sculpture of our heads or a horse and carriage to take us away.
however, in the last three days it’s gone completely haywire. i forgot to include so many things, quotes are coming in way ahead of what i planned, and i know im going to be AT LEAST 25% above my original target.
i’m looking at where i can cut corners and i just don’t see anything i’m either willing or able to give up. or it is such a small drop in the bucket that i may as well just spend the money.
it’s not even a matter of saving more to pay for it, which will be a pain, but i can do it! it’s just the principle that’s getting to me. why all of a sudden do i need a specialty lighting company? oh, i do. why did i not think to include gifts for bridesmaids and groomsmen?! they have to get gifts! since when do linens cost so darn much?!?? it’s just cotton people.
ok. thanks for listening. im just upset bc i thought i could keep things under control and it’s just not happening that way. BLURG.
Post # 3
I would update your list of things you want for the wedding and re-estimate the budget. Try to seperate things into categories like must have, want to have, would be nice to have, ect. Recruit some friends and family for their help.
Post # 4
Could you use theknot.com’s budget calculator? It might not be exact, but it breaks it down into a TON of different categories and you can even exclude the ones you don’t care about.
Post # 5
I definitely went through this – sometimes even when you have the money, you just don’t want to spend ridiculous amounts on things. At the end of the day, you either cut things that you thought mattered or spend more than you were planning on. Not ideal, but you’re definitely not the only one going through this – our budget is now almost twice the original amount we wanted to spend.
The only thing I would caution against are cutting out things that affect the comfort of your guests – I think it’s much better to cut little touches that most people won’t notice or care about. I hope everything works out!
Post # 6
I know all the little things seem like a drop in the bucket, but together they really do add up!
Also, try to bargain a little with your vendors to get some more value out of what you’re paying. And go cheaper with as much as you can, like centerpieces, invites, etc!
Post # 7
Is there anything you want/need/desire you could DIY? Your invites, Save-The-Date Cards, etc. Almost anything paper can be made at home cheaper by you then someone else! Have you been negociating with vendors over prices? With the recession and all, almost all are willing (or ought to be!) to negociate. If you can’t get prices down- can you get things thrown in? An extra hour or two from the photog, the DJ, the videographer, the bar, etc? Can you get more choices or more food or more dessert from the caterer? Linen rentals are expensive I am finding too! But shop around! i found one place (after months and months and months of looking!) which is 1/2 the price of the next cheapest rental place (but they’d have to ship my stuff to me and that puts it on par with the closer rental place). Do you have friends or family who can and will do things for you?
Post # 8
I think everyone finds at some point during the planning process that their budget clacuations weren’t completely accurate, or they were missing some key budget items. I did my very best to rearrange the budget items when i realized something I had forgotten but about 2-3 weeks before the wedding, I just let it go.
If we needed it, we bought. I haven’t yet sat down and calculated what we spent, but I’m pretty sure it was higher than planned.
The reality is you don’t need a specialty lighting company, chiavari chairs, etc. You should make a list of priorities and then maybe make a sacrifice or two. Ultimately it’s all your decisions, but letting go of some expecations isn’t all bad!
Just know that many bees before you have had budget problems and sticker shock and gone over budget You’re not alone, and it’s not impossible to overcome, even if it’s frustrating. We’re with you!
Post # 9
If you list for us some of the items which are coming in at over budget, maybe we can help you find alternatives? For example, in my area, buying linens ended up being a lot less expensive than renting them.