Post # 1
How would you feel about attending a 2:00pm reception in a hotel. Ceremony/reception would actually be in the same room with guests seating at tables during the ceremony. It would be casual, with no bridal party, no DJ/dancing, and no alcohol. We’d like it to be about 2.5 hrs long, so ending before 5:00 pm.
Menu would be: wedding cake, cupcakes, cookies, brownies, fruit platter, wedding mints, ice tea, hot tea, coffee, water, and sodas.
Most guests live within a 30 min drive. Would you feel slighted or disappointed if you attended this wedding? How about if you drove 1.5 hr to attend?
ETA: An alternative menu for the same price point would be chicken noodle soup, salad with all the toppings, breadsticks, cake, iced tea, hot tea, coffee, and water. Which would you prefer?
Post # 3
i wouldn’t be disappointed if i knew ahead of time that it wasn’t a full meal. i’d try and add some savory snacks though….what about some finger sandwiches and cheese and crackers instead of brownies and wedding mints? hummus and pita chips can also be quite satisfying while simultaneously looking quite nice and not breaking the bank. also, i’d try and keep everything “finger foody” so you don’t need cutlery, so just be sure your fruit platter fruits don’t require forks. instead of offering a ton of different drinks, why not just a lemonade or fruit punch?
Post # 4
I would not feel slighted, but I’m not a very greedy person…If I’m coming to your wedding, I’m coming to see you get married, not to eat your food. That being said…some may be expecting to be fed, so if it were me, I would try to do some little deli sandwiches or something along those lines. You can pick these trays up at any grocery for quite a reasonable price. I worked at a grocery in my younger years and we made trays like this all the time for daytime weddings.
Post # 5
I think it would be just fine. Anyone expecting a meal at 2 pm is unrealistic. Most of us don’t eat another meal between lunch and dinner.
I would just make sure that you gave a clear indication that you are serving afternoon tea- not a meal.
It will be easy for those within 30 minutes to have lunch before they arrive.
Those who live further away can either have lunch before they leave or leave a bit early and have lunch in your community before they arrive for the ceremony.
ETA: I vote for the first menu. The second is more like lunch all over again. And what better excuse for sweets and desserts than a wedding?
Post # 6
As long as I knew that was the case then that’s totally fine!
Of the two menus I would prefer the soup menu. The prior is a lot of sweets that early in the day!
Post # 7
On the one hand, I think this is completely great and totally appropriate for the afternoon. On the other hand, I wonder a little about having people seated at tables for the ceremony, as it might be nice to have a more informal and less fixed set up so people would feel more comfortable mingling. But that would completely depend if you want people to be seated or free to move around during the reception, it’s entirely a matter of your preferences! (The soup/salad set up would also be great, but I do think it would be a little odd in the middle of the afternoon.) I would happily drive an hour and a half for that wedding for people I love!
Post # 8
just saw your newly added alternative menu- i feel like finger sandwiches would be much easier to coordinate than soup and salad- keeping the soup hot, utensils for the soup and salad, ladels, etc would end up being a bigger pain in the ass than some sammies, no? plus i’d just prefer sammies, too.
Post # 8
@ERnurse: Oh I see you added an alternative menu….if it’s the same cost for you, I say go for the soup menu, sounds yummy.
Post # 10
Not chicken noodle soup. Dessert would be ok, just make sure you say “dessert reception to follow” or something like that in your invitation.
Post # 11
I think the dessert reception would be great. I’m not sure how I feel about guests seated at tables during the ceremony. If that’s a custom in your area, then definitely g for it – otherwise, people might be a little confused. Why not separate the two by using another area in the same hotel for the ceremony or splitting your room into two or making the reception more of a cocktail reception (which your menu seems more suited to anyway).
Post # 12
Between the two, the first menu but I would look into possibly trading out a couple sweets with something more savory – just for a more rounded mix of options for your guests. Maybe veggies instead of fruit? Cookies & Brownies traded out for savory cupcakes?
Post # 14
I think as long as you let ppl know, it should be fine. But i agree with some of the previous posts: maybe some finger sandwiches in place of a couple desserts.
Post # 15
If you add finger foods to the dessert reception and place your invite ahead of time. Then I think you will be fine.
Food with great hospitality is always received when people know ahead of time.
Congrats! I hope your wedding and marriage is a great success.