(Closed) Budget situation

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Can’t you just tell your folks the guest list is CLOSED. There is no more money! Just be firm! 

Post # 4
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11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  Agreed.

Also, as a nonrelated comment, you may want to ask to have your username changed so it isn’t your email address.

Post # 5
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4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why don’t they understand that you just can’t afford it?? Don’t sell your dress! That is absolutely ridiculous. I would entertain my parents insisting on some additional guests, but if they started going crazy to a point they we couldn’t afford it I would just plain out tell them no. They would just have to understand.

Post # 7
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8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Megan10513:  Just let them pay the difference.  Say you have X amount, this is what you’re spending it on, and they need to cover everyone that they add after that.

Post # 9
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7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It;s time to put on your big girl panties and stand up to your parents. If you allow them to walk all over you now, they will continue to do so throughout your adult life ( and trust me, your future husband will not appreciate continued intrusions by your parents into your life and marriage).  You need to defend your independence by giving back the money and slashing the list back to your original number or figuring out exactly how many people are paid for by their “chip in” amount and only allowing them that many extra guests. But you have to be firm here and set up healthy boundaries with your parents.

Post # 10
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Just please don’t sell your dress. I feel like if you told your mother that in order to provide these ppl to YOUR party you would have to sell your DRESS! THAT ISN’T FAIR!

Post # 11
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Cut the guestlist. You can’t allow your parents to do this so it effects your dress. Tell them you can’t afford it and set a limit on how many people they invite.

Post # 12
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@housebee:  +2, and honestly, if they can’t grow up, I’d consider eloping.  Weddings are not for going into debt.  They won’t know anybody?  Really?  It’s not their day!!  It’s not a party for them!!  Scores of us have sat for hours at receptions where we DID NOT KNOW ANYONE.  That’s what the alcohol is for; they will survive.  Really! 

 

Editing to add–I am frustrated on your behalf, and so sorry that they’re going apes–t on you like that.  But do not sell your dress.  You tried compromising, I echo eveyrone else that it’s time to lay down the law since it is your day.

 

Good luck and keep us posted!!

 

Post # 13
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Do not sell your dress. That is something you would most definitely regret and hold against your parents. You can plan to resell it afterwards to get some money back though (and make another bride very happy!) 

Maybe take all of your expenses to your parents on paper and show them where your budget stands now versus with all those extra people. They may need a visual reminder. 

How many people do you really need to know at a wedding though???

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am so sorry.  My fiance and I discussed in advance what to do if one side of the family wanted to “chip in” and get more invites.  We both agreed it was highly unlikely that the chipping in would cover the venue, the centerpeice, the invites, etc. etc.  You get it. The answer is I’m sorry, no.

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