Post # 1
Never really being involved with any other wedding, so I’m going into all of this blind, and on a budget *sigh*
The wedding isn’t until July and i already feel like I’m pulling my hair out.
My Fiance and I just moved pretty far out of the area from everyone(~5hrs), and I just sent out Save-The-Date Cards. Should I have a bridal party? and if so where should it be? and on the back of the Save-The-Date Cards i put our wedding website for info for rsvping. Do I really need to spend extra money for formal invites?
What’s the ettique for this?
Post # 3
The etiquette does say that you need to send out formal invitations. They don’t have to be fancy or expensive- you could look on vistaprint.com. They often have specials and stuff, and many people have gotten their invitations for free from there. I would worry that if you didn’t send them, people might think you changed your mind about inviting them.
A ‘bridal party’ usually refers to your bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc. Are you asking if you should have any attendants? If that’s your question, then it’s really up to you.
If you mean some kind of engagement party, then again it’s completely optional. It’s my understanding that it’s not extremely common and it can be at any level of formality that you want, so you could just have some friends over for some beer or do nothing at all if you like. If you mean a bridal shower, then it’s really not supposed to be up to you (based on etiquette). Typically, your friends or maybe your relatives would host this.
Post # 4
I think you should send our formal invitations.
Bridal party—optional! If you are close to someone whom you would like to stand up next to you on your big day, then I say go for it. If not, I’m sure there are a lot of bees here who are not having a bridal party.
Post # 5
Looking back, I wish I spent less on my invitations and I only spent $100 for 50. You can go the VistaPrint route or Target/Michael’s do it youself. Keep it simple to keep the cost down. Use the $$$ to get some really nice Thank You cards instead.
Post # 6
you do need to send formal invites, but you can always DIY those, there are lots of tutorials on that around or you can get inexpensive ones through 123print.com or vistaprint.com
My advise is to keep it small, have it at a time in the afternoon when you can get away with not feeding everyone a big meal, and go with a double duty venue, like a church that has a hall, or a room that used for both ceremony and reception.