Hi! I didn’t do an exact line by line at the end, but ours was around $6000. We invited 105 guests and had about 70 attend.
We rented a shelter and gazebo by the lake owned by our county. The total was $550 for both for all day. THe shelter is enclosed with a kitchen. They allowed alcohol and it allowed us to cater ourselves.
DH already owned a nice suit, so we didn’t have to get him anything. I didn’t want our bridal party to have to spend $ so we provided most of their outfits. I found a pair of slacks at Kohls that matched groom’s suit and purchased the ties at Sam’s club, of all places for $7 each. We asked them to wear their own white shirts and brown shoes.
My mom made my BM dresses. She purchased my gown as a gift, which I found at DB. I knew I didn’t want to spend an arm and a leg on my gown. It was about $600 with all the undergarments and alterations.
Mom and I made all the food. DH wanted a taco bar, so that’s what we had. I made carnitas and taco meat the day before. We made several homemade fresh salsas and had all the fixings as well as layer dip, a fruit and veggie tray. I spent about $600 for food and plates….and could have spent less but I WAY over-estimated how much i needed. We used disposables. The wedding had a casual feel and it was not out of place. We provided a spiked lemonade, beer (keg), soda, water and iced tea.
I was able to borrow linens from my husband’s cousin who had just gotten married the year before. My mom helped sew some place-mat things for decor in the center of the tables. I collected as much white milkglass vases at garage sales and thrift stores as we could find the months before the wedding. I bought a few things at Michaels (little birds, dried flowers) to help with the decor.
I purchased my flowers from Sam’s club. They let me down a bit and the hydrangea I ordered was not delivered on time, so we used only baby’s breath, which was okay with me, as I was planning for that to be the main flower anyway.
A friend of DH’s family made our cake as a gift.
My friend did our hair as a gift.
We did our own makeup.
DH did all the music, we used Ipod and were able to borrow sound system from his step-father who is a musician.
My BIL officiated. He is internet ordained.
I spent over 1/3 of our budget on photography. I realized in the end, when the day is over, that is pretty much what we’ll have left to remember the day. I was pleased with our photographer and it was worth the $ to me.
THe little things do add up, gifts for bridal party and all the little extras you don’t think about.
I am from Kansas, where there is not a huge expectation for some luxe event. I never felt pressure to be more “fancy.” That’s just not how folks roll in my neck of the woods. I think that if you manage your expectations, and shield yourself from the “wedding industrial complex” you can see your money will stretch.