- 9 years ago
the other night was the first full on arguement between my fiance and i about the wedding. (not doing too bad seeing as the wedding planning is pretty much done!) our budget is $5000… are we crazy or what? are there any other beeboarders who are also on a tight budget?
we want a small wedding so we have a guest list of 40 people currently. this includes us, our bridal party, the pastor, etc… oh and a lifeguard.
we are renting the camp i’ve been going to since i was 9. its $20 per person to be there… i am waiting to hear if that is all we are getting charged by the camp, or if its going to be per day or what. last i was told is its $20 per person, or minimum of $500… depends on which is more. $800 total
we need a boat to get to the camp as its on an island. the boat is $40 per person… $20 there, and $20 back. $1600
$2400 thus far.
my budget aim for food for the two days we will be there… looking at dinner, breakfast, lunch(the big nice meal of the wedding) and possibly another dinner… or a bagged dinner for the boat ride back to the mainland… is $600. I work in a kitchen, along with my mom, and my “Auntysocial”… we think this is a obtainable to do.
decorations… well i am planning on borrowing lots of christmas lights, those are fee, making/finding some big picture frames, making some paperflower balls, have recycled pickle and peach jars from work for the vases of the tables, and am getting fake flowers to use both at this wedding and for the reception we are having later. my goal is to spend around $200-$300.
flowers… only real flowes the day of the wedding are mine and my bridesmaids. the groomsmen arent getting any, and my fiance has a funky pocket square and thinks its silly to waste money on flowers for the guys. there are awesome little flower stands in our area at the time of our wedding in june. i can get 10 beautiful lilies for $5… can you say deal! my bridesmaids and i are going to hit up the stands the day before the wedding fill up some buckets. and i am making all of the bouquettes at the camp grounds the day we go up there. the wedding is the next morning. budget is $150 max!
reception… we are having a reception three weeks later at the church my parents go to. there is no rental fee as we go to a sister church of this one. but we will be donating some money to the church. food and everything for this… budgeting about $1200 for it as we are inviting all the wedding guests (by then we will have aslide show of wedding photos, and we are hoping to do a fun video) and about 40 more. so looking at 80 people.
photography and lifeguard… my friend who did our engagement photos will be doing our wedding as well he said he is going to do it for free so long as we feed him. and the lifeguard is coming for safety just in case someone gets hurt, he is a friend of mine that has been the lifeguard at the camp for years! both people dont want to be paid but we will be giving them both $200. with the photographer we snuck his ephoto pay into our wedding save the date… i got a phone call later of him freaking out saying “WHAT! you cant pay me, i told you no!” it was funny we have to get sneaky with the wedding money… i’m thinking of hidding it in a box of beer.
TADA~! not bad!
chances are we will be under in areas… i am penny pinching and so is my fiance when it comes to costs. we have not included our wardrobe costs in this as they are things we both already had money saved for. i’ve been saving for awhile for my dress… even that i only spent $500 on and that includes my veil. And he got an amazing deal on a suit from tommmy hilfiger that he will be wearing for church, etc after the wedding.
now what about the smack down… well the other night were were talking about our wedding invite list vs our reception invite list. it got interesting when he mentioned wanting to invite his uncles girlfriend (side story: back when we had an engagement bbq we wanted to keep it small and only invite people close to us who have been with us throughout all of dating,etc… specifically people who have met him on my side of the family, and people who have met me on his side. well we invited his uncle. but we didnt not invite his girlfriend of the girlfriends son that everyone~! complains about being a major brat. well his uncle phoned his parents and tried to rip a strip off them for not inviting her. my issue right away was… why didnt you call us and talk to us? our numbers are the ones on the invite? we are the ones hosting this not either of our sets of parents? so that burned a bridge right there… then his parents phoned us and tried to rip a strip off my fiance, even to the point of almost making him cry. now i do not take well to that, and i protect my man… and i was quick to let them know that its a small bbq we are hosting and paying for and its only people who know us coming. its goes on from there but you get the point) well my fiance is feeling guilty and we’ve have talked about this situation several times before. he thinks we should invite her… we already have a list of 40 people… the boat only fits that many! it got ugly for a bit, and we didnt talk to each other for a good two hours so we could cool off. but we’ve both agreed to move them both to the reception invite only as we know that his uncle will not come wihtout her, he also wont come to the wedding as its on a week day (tuesday). are we right in doing this? i’ve also bumped an aunt of mine to the reception list to appease him.
anyone else been in a boat like this one?