(Closed) Budgets and rings and things.

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

It sounds like your idea of buying a diamond ring with a smaller center and the setting you had liked would be a good compromise. That way, your SO could still feel like he bought you the ring you fell in love with while not taking too much money away from your other priorities. You can always upgrade later once you build your home, buy a truck, and take care of whatever other non-ring expenses you have on your plate.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse

My now Fiance got hung up on the ‘three months salary’ rule (hah! Rule? To who! Debeers?) and I vehemently told him if he spent 3 months salary that I would tell him No. With a capital N. If it really doesn’t matter to you settling on something smaller is your absolute best bet. He won’t feel the pressure and you won’t feel the guilt about worrying that he spent too much.  There are still so many things that you can spend your money on, the wedding honeymoon, furnishing your home… Things that will need to have money spent on, and starting your beautiful life together shouldn’t start in the red!

Your worries and doubt show you care about what happens, and you’ll love your ring just the same a few carats less I’ll bet!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

If you get the sapphire now it will give you time to save up for your dream ring . Dont forget if royalty can wear sapphire as their main stone then I think no one can down  it . 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by Profile Photo Spiritway11.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee

My fiance’s first ring to me was a beautiful custom made ring with a 0.36 ct diamond of exceptional quality.  He knew I wanted a diamond and I didn’t care what size it was so he got me one that he could afford at the time and it was on the smaller side but of very high quality and I absolutely loved it.  The ring, along with the custom made wedding band, was gorgeous.  I was very, very happy with it.  Later on, he bought me a new engagement ring with a diamond that is 1.03 cts, also very beautiful and high quality.  I love it because it came from him and I wouldnt’ have cared if he never bought me a second ring.  Don’t worry about what people think.  Go with something you love and maybe later on when you both have more income, you can upgrade.  

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You could get something very simple now and then upgrade the whole thing later – maybe a small moissanite? Then get your dream ring later. Your tastes may change too and your dream ring now may be different from down the road. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would buy what you can afford together, from a vendor with a good upgrade policy, and a simple but beautiful setting.  When finances permit, I would get the dream ring.  That is kinda the route my Darling Husband and I took and it did take 5 years to get the dream diamond and another year to get the setting (after getting married), so we waited a while.  But it was so worth it!!  And we did not have to wait to get engaged or be ringless. 😉

Post # 8
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Busy bee

 

intertwangled:  congrats on being practical and realistic. It’s tough sometimes, especially seeing the gorgeous sparklers on here! I got hung up on the same ideas about size and cost, etc. However, past the initial engagement, no one really ever looks or cares, unless it’s a really large or unique (sapphire) ring. Dont get hung up on what other people think, and don’t let him get self conscious about it. At the end of the day it’s a reminder of his comitment and what you can build together, NOT how much he loves you. 

Best of luck, and please share the ring when you get it 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee

intertwangled:  Thats great, i think you made the best decision. Congrats and looking forward to seeing your ring.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Its beautiful congratulations!!! Its more important to have a home than a huge ring!!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

intertwangled:  Congratulations on your engagement!! Your ring is stunning. Your center stone is such a beautiful sparkler. And I love the setting design. It is incredibly lovely.

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