Post # 1
So, BF and I went to a lovely wedding on Saturday. The reception was outside under tents. There were hors d’oeuvres set up, and the buffet line was set up too. We had a great time hanging out with our friends… but then about 20 min. into the cocktail hour, we noticed that about half… literally half… of the guests had ALREADY gone through the buffet line and were eating dinner!! The bride and groom weren’t even THERE yet… they were still taking pictures!!
I’m sorry, but WTH? Who eats before the bride and groom are even there? My friends and I were appalled and could not figure out how people thought that this was okay at all. The only thing we could assume was that 1) people don’t know etiquette, and 2) since the buffet was already out, they thought that it was time to eat. Which… okay… maybe, but I was ticked.
Anyway, has anyone else seen this/had it happen to them? And, how can we all make sure that this DOESN’T happen at our weddings if we have a buffet…
Post # 3
Wow. That’s ridiculous. What poorly mannered people. Maybe at your wedding have the staff under strict instructions to keep the dinner food covered until mealtime has been announced. Hopefully people won’t be so rude as to open everything up.
Post # 4
That should never have happened. The catering staff should have been instructed to hold off until after the bride and groom’s arrival. Usually guests are instructed to take their seats by the DJ (or whomever is running the timeline) before the B and G’s grand entrance. Then the catering staff goes from table to table signaling each table to go get their food. The bridal party always eats first, then the families, then the rest of the guests. That way they are ready for the toasts while the guests are seated and eating,
Post # 5
Our cocktail hour is in a different part of our venue than our buffet dinner, so the guests won’t have access to the food before it is time to eat. That’s one way to control it effectively! Otherwise, give th caterers the instructions that they are to politely fend people off until a pre-determined time. That should cover you.
Post # 6
Instruct your catering staff to guide guests and keep the plates covered until dinner is served.
Post # 7
Ooooo. this is interesting! We are having a backyard wedding and ALL the food will be out- the desserts, buffet, and hors d’oeuvres. I would be pissed if people started eating food before it’s time, like munching on hors d’oeuvres during the ceremony, buffet during the cocktail hour, and being greedy and going at the dessert bar before the cake is cut. Appaling behavior at that wedding, I’ll remember to keep all the food covered until chow time.
Post # 8
Yeah, it just pissed me off that people would be THAT rude. I’m not sure why the people serving the food didn’t say anything. It was family-catered, but still… there were people responsible for setting up/putting the food out.
I like the idea of keeping plates covered. Maybe that would deter people. People never cease to amaze… :/
Post # 9
Where were the venue staff? They should have had the DJ announce that it was cocktail hour and what time dinner would be served. That’s ludicrous and I wouldn’t have handed over the check at the end of the night lol