(Closed) buffet or family style?

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 3
3631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, if you have family style (like ON the table) then it will take over any space for centerpieces. Personally, I think having a couple buffet lines is easier because then it isn’t like dinner reminents sit on the table or anything.

Post # 5
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We had family style and seriously everyone at our wedding raved about it. I loved it because everyone gets to eat at the same time compared to buffet where the last table is waiting like half an hour before their turn to eat. Everyone gets to have as much as they want, including seconds without that guilty feeling of going back up to the buffet again. If you don’t quite get enough gravy on your mashed potatoes you can easily grab some more. And no one is walking around with plates of food. 

And FYI we had centrepieces and picture frames for our table numbers, there was no issues with space at the tables. And if you have good catering staff, no remninents should be left on the tables.

Post # 7
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

As a guest, I’d prefer the buffet. I like getting up, stretching, mingling, and deciding what to get.

Post # 8
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

FAMILY STYLE!!! Love love love it! It gets the whole table talking and mingling, you can have as much of everything as you want…I was at a wedding last year like this and it was by far the best wedding ever because we walked in and the food was all right there 6″ from our plates! All the guests raved about it!!! I am DEFF doing family style at my wedding!!!

Post # 9
2536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I prefer family style.

Post # 10
537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think this also depends on what you want to serve. A buffet can much more easily accommodate two salads, two entrees, two sides, vegetables, etc. Family style will have space issues and therefore less room for food options. So yes, I agree that a discussion with your vendor/ caterer would be helpful in making this decision!

Post # 11
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As a guest, I think I would prefer family style for the reasons PP mentioned. All the weddings I’ve been to had buffets, and it seemed like it took forever for everyone to make it through the line and actually start eating. 

Post # 12
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Family style!

Post # 13
11 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

For what it’s worth, agree with everyone on the family style! As a guest who has had all types (and I’m having a sit down so this is purely a guest perspective), I would ABSOLOUTELY prefer family style over buffet. You do not have to make your guests get up to get their food and, worst of all, WAIT while another table is probably already done. And everyone still gets as much or as  little food as they want!

Family style was actually my first choice, and what I had set out to have- the hall we went with did not have this as an option, so that’s why we are going with sit down. But, yes, family style all the way.

Post # 14
3389 posts
Sugar bee

For me I prefer Buffet style, I like choosing what to eat because I don’t eat meat, dairy etc… 

Post # 15
417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did family style. We had two salads, and two mains, each with vegetables on the tray. I thought it worked out very well–people could take what they wanted of each dish without having to get up, and there were no “last table to get to the buffet” issues.  We also didn’t want our older guests to have to wait in a buffet line, carry around plates, etc. We had an outdoor lunch reception, so it very much fit the formality, etc of our event.

We wrote on our RSVP card something like “We will be serving family style but please let us know if you are a vegetarian or have other special dietary needs.” We had separate entrees for those folks.

Some caterers quote extra for family style as they claim they will need more servers, but we deliberately chose one that didn’t as we knew from the start that’s how we wanted to go.

@happyface:  You would be choosing, you’d just be choosing it while seated at your table rather than while standing in a line juggling plates.

Post # 16
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014


Do you have any pictures of what it looked like family style at your reception?

Do any of you other ladies have pictures from your reception served family style?

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