Post # 17
My location also has the option of family style. At first I was weirded out by this, but a friend who went to a wedding that did this thought it was a great idea. It brings the guests closer together and everyone is served in a matter of minutes, instead of waiting for a buffet or to get their order of choice.
Post # 18
I personally dislike assigned seats and plated dinners, unless it is a small wedding (40 people or less.) It means less mixing, less dancing, and a generally more fussy, scheduled atmosphere. Buffets work great *if*: you have several set up (with the same food options) have a lot of food, and don’t have a set dinner "hour" but instead have food out for several hours so people can eat when they like. I’m a big fan of the "more of a giant party" kind of wedding though.
Post # 19
At the reception place we decided on, we didn’t have that choice. But at the other venues we looked into, the plated vs. the buffet were at the same price range so it won’t actually be cheap. I know what you mean about it may look cheap, but it actually gives people more of a selection. They don’t have to decide months earlier on what they will feel like eating at a wedding so far away, which is actually kind of nice. I’ve been to so many weddings wondering, "what the heck did I pick to eat??" Or, as someone else mentioned, try family style. Anyway you do it, it’s going to be great!! Good luck!
Post # 20
We had 120 people at our reception, buffet, two sides, people did get through pretty quickly, and because of what we had in our buffet I don’t think anyone though it was "cheap". Plus the food was fantastic! Salads & rolls were brought out to each place setting before the buffet started.
Plus I think the guests enjoyed not having to choose their entree 1-2 months in advance. Our buffet included seafood, chicken french, pasta with 2 different sauces, fresh veggies, fresh fruit, seasoned roasted potatoes, and a beef carving station.
Post # 21
Personally, Mr. Snow Pea and I prefered a sit down because we felt it was more formal. Also, our event manager for our Rehearsal Dinner commented that many times the food that you get at a buffet isn’t "worth as much" as what you’re paying for. We also felt a buffet would infringe on all the dancing time.
Post # 22
i’ve always imagined a sit-down for mine, but if you do decide to go buffet, you’ll just have to be extra organized when it comes to setting it all up for your guests. i’m not a big fan of buffet weddings, but honestly, when you are hungry, it really doesn’t matter as long as the food tastes good. 😛
Post # 23
From past experiences I’ve been able to get an idea of what all styles are like. My cousin’s wedding was a station-type dinner which was absolutely amazing. She had her reception at an art gallery with very high cielings and very open so this worked very well and gave everyone a chance to mingle and get to know each other. My brother tried to do a variation of this, but due to difficulty with his in-laws going back to the caterer and giving them different opinions on how it should be done, it came out a combination of just horsdeourves with table seating (not assigned). It worked alright, but in the end everyone left still fairly hungry.
I also went to a fully assigned seating pick out the meal when sending back the rsvp dinner and it seemed very confined and restricted to me, almost too formal.
I’ve been to many buffet weddings and, if not set up properly, it has taken a while to get through the line, but i really appreciate the ability to choose what you would like to eat as well as your own portion sizes.
So, since we aren’t able to do the stations at our venue, we decided to go with the buffet style. We sat down with the caterers and ironed out a meal to our tastes (pun not intended) and even modified menus they had set up already. We also need to have a meal made seperately for my grandfather for health reasons and they are very accomodating of this. It will also be set up the ability to have people use both sides of the table to get through faster.
Hope any of this helps.
Post # 24
I completely agree it’s all about the vibe. If you’re doing a large and superformal, you probably don’t want to go the buffet route, but it’s always up to you. We’ve talked about it and I think we’re going to do a buffet style dinner since we have a number of different friends and family members with dietary issues (doing it plated would be a nightmare).
That said, I think we’re going to do a few different stations so that there is less congestion. After all, is there anything worse than standing in a line on a hot summer day wearing formal, toe pinching shoes? Yikes!
Post # 25
I am going to have a plated dinner, all the other weddings in my family lately have been buffet and there were no complaints about the quality of the food. I’m going with plated because we want a more formal reception and because I want to be different.
For those who have gone with plated, did you find it diffcult to manage your guests food choices via the invitations? Or did you let them pick their meal option at the reception?
Post # 26
Deonise, our wedding will be smaller with 50 ppl. Since it’s a plated meal I assumed we’d have to request meal choices on the response card. Our venue pleasantly surprised us when they said each guest will get to chose their entree from the custom menu once seated.
Less work for us! 🙂
Post # 27
It is quite a task to work out the seating and such for a sit down menu, but I am SO happy that we are going this route… I don’t know if it’s normal, but our venue actually charges significantly more for the buffet option $15+ more per head (depending on which buffet you choose), so the seated dinner was a no brainer for us. I also wasn’t happy about where in the venue the buffet would be located so that would have sealed the deal if it weren’t already sealed…