Post # 47
We’re having a buffet and it’s going to be incredible.
If any of our guests consider it tacky or in poor taste, they can find the nearest exit and head toward Morton’s if they’d like. I’m amazed at guests’ feelings of entitlement sometimes.
Post # 48
Thank you everyone, I appreciate all the feedback 🙂
Post # 49
We personally did a buffet for some of the reasons listed by other pp’s. First, some people may want more or less than what would be offered on a plated meal and with buffet they can pick and choose not only what it put on their plate, but also how much they take. Second, some guests may not want to choose just one plated item and with buffets they can get a better choice.
Honestly, I’ve been to weddings that have had plated dinners that were definitely not worth the money that the bride and groom paid. Regardless of more formal or fancy, I would rather my guests get to pick and choose which items they take and how much.
Post # 50
@KristenGettingMarried haha!! I totally agree with you!!!! I’m honestly suprised at how many people lose sight of what the wedding is actually supposed to be about and instead focus on etiquette and age old traditions.
Post # 51
I love buffets and sit down meals. I chose to do a sit down meal for dinner And buffet style for our late night snack.I do agree with the idea that it’s better for guests to have any options so we are trying to do the formal sit down and include many options. Here is our menu:
trio plate, salad, tomato soup, petite gourmet grilled cheese sandwhich
Plated pasta appetizer
Sorbet palette cLeanser
Beef medallions and crab stuffed shrimp, haven’t picked sides yet
Two flavors of wedding cake
We are also haing a late night snack which is a burger bar and French fry Buffet. The burgers will be pulled pok, reg burgers, chicken tenders and braised short ribs, you build your own. And the fries will be waffle fries where you pile on your toppings.
We hopEvonne of guests will leave hungry and we are sending the, off with champagne and a cupcake. 🙂
Post # 52
I prefer sit downs. Especially for our wedding. We had 270 guests and I just think that for (1) the spacing would have been so cramped with a buffet and (2) I don’t like it when people are still waiting for food while others are already done with their meal.
But I’ve been to many weddings with buffets and they were lovely. But I do prefer sit downs
Post # 53
@DaneLady: family style! cuts down on wait staff. people can pick and choose what they want. no lines. kind of sit down-ish but less restrictive. sounds good to mee! can you opt for buffet option but modify to have an option like this?
Post # 54
I prefer sit down dinners. With buffets there is more to worry about: getting the guests to the food, keeping the food hot, making sure everything gets replenished etc…
Post # 55
Buffets aren’t tacky.
Running out of food, serving cold or improperly prepared food, or poor line management can make a buffet disappointing. It should not be assumed that every buffet will inherently encounter these issues.
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding (fundraiser, party, yes) with a plated dinner. Even my ridiculously loaded family friends who own a luggage brand served a buffet dinner at their daughter’s wedding, at a yacht club with a well-known jazz singer providing dinner entertainment.
Post # 56
I actually like the buffet style. I think it is more efficient, and all the guests can get exactly what they want.
Post # 57
I attend about thirty five weddings every year for work. I’ve seen buffets done very classy. However, I’ve seen them done poorly as well. I think if you’re planning a formal evening affair, the way to make a buffet classy is to have plenty of options, and make sure all of the options are somewhat upscale. A buffet with baked ziti and pasta salad screams tight budget. One with a carving station and some fancier chicken and seafood dishes can be super tasteful however. The worst wedding I ever went to (I was actually a guest) had only two entree options, and then a mashed potato bar, a salad, and some too dry lasagna. The best had two options each of chicken, beef, vegetable, pasta, and seafood, a roast pig carving station, a salad bar, and another side or two. So, both my favorite and least favorite wedding meals were buffet. It really just depends how it’s done.
Post # 58
I think a buffet can be very tasteful. I do agree that if there are carving stations that tends to be the best option because it splits up the lines. I also agree it’s important that if you do a buffet, you find an efficient way to call people up.
I personally prefer sit down dinners. I have been to two events (one was a wedding and one was some kind of recognition event I think) where the buffets ran out of food. I know the perception is that must have been the hosts fault, but they were both very nice venues where you paid per guest not estimated.
If I were doing a buffet, I would set expectations with the venue around replenishment and presentation.
Hope that helps!
Post # 59
I have been to both, and my preference honestly depends on the quality of the food in both cases. But then again, I like choosing my own meal. I know that plated may “seem” more formal, but in reality you normally only have two or three choices. Very often similar food can be served buffet style with additional options. Who is not going to prefer that? As long as the food is warm and you have two buffet lines at a big wedding, it’s fine. I never take more than one plate at once (so no balance issue) and I don’t pile the food so high that I would risk spilling it on myself. I have also NEVER seen food spilled all over the floor at a buffet. Unless you are inviting a lot of kids, I don’t think this will be a problem.
Post # 60
Maybe it’s a southern thing, but even at the most formal of weddings, I have NEVER had a sit-down meal. I mean, we’re talking reception in the former governor’s mansion in Louisiana, and it was buffet. And it was delicious.
IS it a southern thing to be more buffet-heavy? We’re having a buffet…sit down wasn’t even presented to us as an option through our venue. And we’re paying a pretty penny for it.
Post # 61
@LizLemon: You know, it’s funny, because I think it might be a southern thing. I’m in New Jersey, so most of the weddings I see are northeast weddings, but I do travel throughout the year.. and now that you mention it, southern weddings do seem to be buffet more frequently than weddings in the northeast. hmm. IIINNNNteresting. lol.