(Closed) Buffets: you're doin' it wrong!

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s mostly a regional thing. Buffets are what you do in my area. I’ve never been to a wedding with a plated dinner. Like you said, even the “snobby” people do buffets around here.


Other places are just more used to plated dinners over buffets. I don’t take offense, if someone hates buffets… they just don’t understand how it is in my area. No biggie!


I agree, though, that a buffet can be done beautifully! It all depends on the caterer.

Post # 4
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ve never been to a plated wedding. Everything has always been buffet and that is what I’m going to have as well whenever I get married. I find nothing wrong with it.

Post # 5
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am in the same boat as you, even the fancy weddings in my area are buffets. I’ve seen some pretty bad ones and some pretty awesome ones, it just really depends on the caterer.

Although, cold food was usually when the caterer had to bring the food in from somewhere else and didn’t have a kitchen on site.

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, I totally agree with everything you’ve said. I’ve ran into some of those difficulties (long lines, cold food) and it was because the set-up wasn’t planned well. Having double lines can make a world of difference!

Post # 7
9677 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I like buffets.  I enjoy them because I like the variety and I like to be able to choose what I want to eat (and how much).  When they are done properly there will be no cold food and there will be plenty of food (almost all buffets I’ve been to at weddings have been fine).  It all depends on the caterer.  The vast majority of weddings I’ve been to have been buffets.

I don’t worry about anyone “breathing” on my food.  I imagine plated service is the same or actually worse (“oops, didn’t mean to touch that with my fingers…oh well they’ll never know”).  The only way to ensure no one else is touching or breathing on your food is to make it yourself.  But I don’t have germ-phobia either (I was once told by a Boyfriend or Best Friend he wouldn’t kiss me because he had a terrible cold and didn’t want to pass it to me–I said that’s a challenge to me.  I ended up with only a very a slightly sore throat Smile).

Post # 8
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Before I got engaged, I swore up and down that I would NEVER do a buffet, because the ones that I had been to had horribly long waits, cold foods, etc. – all the things you expect at a buffet.  Then I was at a wedding with a plated dinner, and we got the same sort of thing, except almost worse, because you don’t expect that sort of service at a plated dinner.  After that, I started to change my mind in the slightest, and when we found our venue, and discovered that we would be getting so much more food for a fraction of the price if we chose the buffet option, my mind was made up.  It didn’t hurt that the buffet was done correctly – two lines instead of one, multiple tables going up, and servers helping out those who needed assistance.  I didn’t time it, but I’m fairly certain that all of our guests were served in less than 15 minutes.  If it’s done correctly, buffets can be awesome! 

Post # 9
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yea I dont see the big deal with buffets, but its not common in my area/ social circle. I like buffets because there is more options. Ive also noticed while pricing things for my wedding buffets can be more money. Im guessing because more food needs to be made than with a plated meal that is one meal per person.

Post # 10
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am considering switching to a buffet for a few reasons…one that it would reduce the stress surrounding figuring out where everyone is sitting and how the servers will know…and two that I think it will be cheaper.  I am getting worried about costs!  


Post # 11
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ive never been to a wedding with a buffet, only plated dinners

i like the idea of variety buti dont like the idea if having to serve myself (if its self serve) and i dont much like the idea of having to carry my plate to my table,i prefer to have a waiter

Post # 12
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not picky. plated or buffet, I just want eats!

Post # 13
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

+1 for never being to a reception with a plated dinner

Post # 14
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve never been to a wedding that wasn’t a plated dinner, unless it was outside of NY.  That being said, I LOVE buffets.  Cocktail hour is essentially a buffet and it’s the BEST part of the wedding.  I like taking a little bit of everything to taste and if I want more, I can always go back.  There’s nothing worse than ordering a meal that’s absolutely disgusting and not being able to finish it, which has happened to me at TWO plated dinner weddings, which means going to Taco Bell on the way home or whatever.  Sucks. 

Post # 15
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I totally agree with you.  My sister had a Buffet dinner and it was way better than the 2 weddings that I went to that had a plated dinner. 

If you don’t like what they chose then you are completely stuck with it and you don’t get seconds.  The great thing about a buffet is that people get to pick their own proportion.  And they get to choose everything that is put on their plate.

Also, the big bonus with my sister’s wedding is that there were a ton of left overs that she was able to take home 🙂

Post # 16
11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Although I love a really good buffet for the variety of food options presented, I prefer plated dinners for elegant occasions.  What I find interesting is how many bees have found that buffets seem to be cheaper than plated dinners. 

That was not my experience with my venue.  We served a delicious plated dinner of surf-and-turf (filet of beef, shellfish, potato, vegetable, roll, and salad) for less money than a buffet of the same food would cost.  As the coordinator explained, buffets require so much more food than a plated dinner, since the last person being served does not take the last entree.  The buffet must look full even when the last guest goes through the line. 

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