Post # 1
My fiancee and I are not a very religious couple. I was raised Roman Catholic, she is agnostic. We want to build our cermony based on our relationship and have it be something is an enjoyable experience to the people who will be involved in the wedding party. My fiancee wants to top the way she proposed (a scavenger hunt through our relationship) and I want it to be that meaningful. My problem is that I have NO idea where to start, or how to begin making this all make sense. Any suggestions or ideas about how to make a ceremony come together?
Post # 3
Are you talking about the wording? We created our own ceremony. I cobbled together a lot of different ones from my google search and then added a few personal touches.
Post # 4
Check out indiebride.com. In the chat and gab section there is a place called Vows. Check out other peoples thread, there is even a repository for ceremony reading and vows. Thats what I did and found some wonderful stuff. I didnt’ want to take what other people used for vows and suhc, but its a good starting place.
Post # 5
I agree. I would look at a bunch of ceremony options online to get an idea of flow and things you like and don’t like. Then make it your own!
Post # 6
Thanks for the help. We have only been engaged for two months, but already I am feeling over whelmed by the decisions and options floating around. I am a pretty decisive person, my fiancee is the single least decisive person in the world so I know this ceremony will be predominately created by me. It is nice to know that there are people who are open to listening to me rant and rave and then offer some help. Y’all are awesome:-)
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
You may want to check out Jessie Blum’s posts on Weddingbee Pro, she seems to have some good tips on creating a ceremony that fits you as a couple.
Post # 8
There’s a book, too, that’s been recommended around here that I used to help me write my ceremony. It’s The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson. She goes through how to structure the ceremony and also provides sample text for different parts, like marriage address and vows, plus some suggestions of different ceremonies you can do.
Post # 9
FutureMrsStrunk, do you plan on writing your own ceremony? There are many non-religious officiants who will work with you to create a really awesome and original wedding ceremony, so you don’t have to stress about it – and you have plenty of time, too!
Post # 10
I’ll have to second the comment made about the book by Judith Johnson. My fiance and are have radically different religious beliefs, as in, I have some and he doesn’t, haha. And that book has been extremely helpful during the process of writing our ceremony script. It offers tons of alternatives between Christian and non-Christian, traditional and non-traditional and has examples of entire ceremonies. If you want to take a look at it before buying, you should check Google Books, they have a preview that should give you a good idea of whether or not it’s right for you.
Here’s a link if you’re interested. http://books.google.com/books?id=E6Q2Xo7Z2gQC&printsec=frontcover&dq=judith+johnson#v=onepage&q=&f=false
And if it turns out it’s not for you, I know there’s tons of other books with the same premise. Or you could even try searching online for some samples of other peoples ceremonies.
Post # 11
There are also several examples of handmade wedding ceremony scripts on 2000dollarwedding.
Good luck and have fun!