Post # 1
Me and FH are getting married July 17th, my wedding shower is in 2 weeks so I have been topping up my registry to try to make sure everything is balanced.
At first, my registry was heavy on $100 + items, but with the shower coming up I switched focus and tried to add a bunch of lower-cost items. We removed all our “sets” and replaced them with all the individual items, and added more linens (to upgrade our older ones), and more servingware.
Now our registry looks completely unbalanced in the other direction (AHHH) I guess this is preferable, because people can pick up a group of smaller items, but even with it being super unbalanced in the lower end, I am still short of the recommended amount of items for the size of my wedding and shower.
This is my breakdown (for 120 guests at the wedding, and 20-30 at the shower):
< $25 = 80 items
$25 – $50 = 20 items
$50 – $75 = 10 items
$75 – $100 = 10 items
$100 – $150 = 10 items
$150 – $200 = 2 items
> $200 = 3 items
What would you think if you saw this kind of breakdown? Should we remove individual items and put the sets back in (like 10 utensils in a $100 dollar set as apposed to 10 $10 items)?
There are a few more $200 dollar-ish items we would like to add (down pillows, and duvet), do you think it would be okay to add them in?
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to balance your registry with more expensive things. Most people will probably buy you less expensive things, especially for the registry.
Post # 4
I would say leave it how it is right now, and reassess after the shower. That’s what I’m doing. My Maid/Matron of Honor forgot to put one of the three stores I’m registered at on the wedding invite, and it happened to be the store where I had the vast majority of my under $50 items. So I just added a bunch of duplicates to my other two registeries, and will redo after the shower.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine to add them, and also not to worry about it too much. I tried to keep ours balanced, too. And then: two different people bought up miscellaneous groups of under $30 items (also added with the shower in mind) to make a larger gift, and four people bought the most expensive things on the registry (some of which we hadn’t expected to get at all, so that was exciting!) So much for my careful planning!
I say put on what you’d actually like to have, and then you can monitor it over time to see what people are buying and if you need to adjust. The one thing we’ve learned so far is that our Williams-Sonoma registry is wildly popular, and no one really wants to buy us dishes from our other registry (which ironically is the one thing we *really* need, and will use every day!) We decided not to add anything to the W-S registry, though; we really don’t need anything that’s not already on there, and if people are really set on buying us a registry gift and all that’s left are plates and bowls, c’est la vie.
I was a little surprised to find out how much some people spend on wedding gifts, though, so I wouldn’t be shy about putting more expensive items on there, if you do want them.
Post # 6
I would just leave it!!! Gives people more options, and if they want to spend more, they cna buy more items 🙂 plus, for completion, if you only get a few things leftover, and they are smaller items, it will be easier to buy the remaining stuff from the registry 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice guys, I was a little overwhelmed after I got home and combed through the 6 pages of registry items I printed out!!
I think I will just take the advice to leave it be for now, and look at it a week or so after the shower, and see where we stand.
The reason I want the duvet/pillows is that we are going to use our wedding money to buy a king sized bed (YAY), so I am registered for king sized linens, but wasn’t too sure people would spring for a $150 dollar pillow or $200 dollar duvet (although we will need the king sized duvet for the new bed for sure). I think I will go and add those items on, because it doesn’t hurt, I just didn’t want to look greedy, or for someone to feel weird for buying us 1 pillow (LOL).
Post # 8
I’d add those more expensive items, then leave your registry as is. After your shower, you can totally reassess things and decide if you need to make any more changes. I’ve started getting wedding gifts in the past week or two, and most people giving larger gifts have just been sending checks or gift cards to our registry stores, anyway! The people who spent less were typically the ones buying items off our registry.
Post # 9
I love small priced items because I can pick and choose a couple of things that add up to how much I want to spend.