Post # 1
So as our engagement goes on, many people have been telling me to keep on building our relationship through our engagement and to not focus too much on the wedding. I agree. It is important to focus time on eachother, and not talk ‘wedding’ 24/7.
I am wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to keep, ‘building our relationship’. I feel like you can only go out to dinner, cook, or get drinks together so many times. Any fresh ideas are welcome:)
Post # 3
We have game night to change things up. We usually open a bottle of wine and play videogames (like LEGO Harry Potter so as not to totally expose my completely lack of videogame skills, lol) or board games for an evening. No phones. No internet. Just an evening of laughing and connecting. It can be a great change of pace 🙂
Post # 4
Well, hopefully you did this before you became engaged. But if you didn’t, now is the time to sit down and discuss the “unpleasant” things. Money. Kids. Religion (usually involving said kids). Education. Career.
Do you have a financial plan if one of you loses your job? What’s your goal towards your living situation – looking to buy a house or rent? Have you discussed the really hard things, like if you get in a car wreck tomorrow and you’re brain dead, what would you want done? Do you want kids? If so. how do you want them educated?
You want to make sure you’re both on the same page about major issues before you get married. Doesn’t mean you have to be lockstep in agreement with each other, but you need to be aiming for the same goals.
Post # 5
@MariContrary: Great advice. Thanks!
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MariContrary: Agreed. It’s best to touch on the “uncomfortable” subjects now before getting married because the engagement period is your last chance to back out of the marriage.