- 5 years ago
I am posting under a new alias because I’m not too sure if my “sister in law” reads this website, she might and she might not. But for my own well being, I am posting anonymously.
I have been with my SO for 8 years and we have a great relationship, it used to be rocky, but we worked through it and pulled through stronger than ever. His brothers wife, I call her my “sister in law” because my SO and I are technically already married in our eyes. Anyways, my “SIL” has had it out for me ever since we met 8 years ago. She’s been rude, catty, mean and always has some sort of nasty comment to say about me and generally about anyone else. I’ve ALWAYS looked past it because in order to have a good relationship with your SO you have to get along with his family, no matter the circumstance.
Anyways, a couple years ago we were invited to their wedding (of course) and mind you, she has known me for 8 LONG YEARS, she knows my name, address, etc. We get the invitations and I was listed as “AND GUEST” I didn’t have a name, my name was also GUEST on the seating chart. I was HURT and kind of disgusted at how childish someone could be. I almost ended my loving relationship with my SO because I couldn’t deal with the drama, and the bullying. (THERE WAS A LOT OF OTHER THINGS THAT HAPPENED, however, I cannot post it because if she reads it, she’ll DEFINITELY know it is about her) Lets just say the “rocky” times in our relationship were always caused by SIL and her terrible ways. I was bullied for a long, long, LONG time.
Fast forward to now, I haven’t spoken to them and I tried to make amends and was basically told a big F YOU and then it changed because my SO said we have to figure it out if we are ever going to be “family” and SURPRISINGLY they agreed.
NOW, my question is HOW important is it to create a relationship with someone that has treated you like garbage for the last few years? We don’t see them ever, my SO doesn’t talk to his brothers and they only talk to him when they need something. (which makes me very sad, he wasn’t even asked to be a groomsmen and his other brother was asked – don’t know if it had anything to do with SIL) They live kind of far away from us, but created their own bubble of a life, and as have we, BUT we do try to reach out whenever possible and it’s never reciprocated. His brother NEVER even mentioned to him that they were expecting and we heard it through the grapevine…
Any advice is helpful.