Post # 1
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Busy bee
After yet again another incident with our boss, my coworker gave our boss’ boss another chance to step in and he wouldn’t and essentially said to go to HR because she threatened it so he was mad that she hadn’t followed through with her threat. Ok she never said she was going to HR, she just said she was going to start documenting everything and would go to HR if need be but would rather not. So she is going tomorrow morning.
Neither of us have been in this situation before- any tips?
Currently she is printing off emails that she has and our boss is out of town today and tomorrow. I know she will be a raging “B” when she gets back.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I am not sure I follow. Pronouns are hard to determine who is who and that the situation is.
The boss’s boss threatened “it”, What is it?
“He wouldnt”- I assume this is boss’s boss, so who is the “she” in “she threatened”
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
can you explain the back story? What did the boss do?
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I would document everything and go to HR. This way, HR will document everything also, possibly put the info. in her file, and give you advice on what actions to take next. HR will know what is considered unacceptable behavior, etc. and may confront your boss’s boss about it. Your boss is going to be confronted about her behavior either way, but I have learned this is the best option because once a bully is confronted, they usually back down. Good luck.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Ugh, what hasn’t my boss (B), who is a she as well done? Long story short-B is just a big controlling bully. B yells at us in front of everyone and loves to humiliate us. We have loads of vacation/sick leave but B acts like “How dare you take time off of work?” and we catch hell for it the days after we come back. It’s gotten to the point where no one wants to come in anymore. We have to approve things for B and when they are wrong, B explodes and once B tried to just get me to shut up and sign something when it was wrong because B just didn’t want to fix it. What led to today was that B got in CW’s face again and yelled at her, threatening her with stuff in front of several people.
She has also yelled at us, threatening us about taking another job and in our workplace, our supervisors are supposed to support us moving up the ladder.
My coworker (CW) is the she in the original post and our boss’ boss (BB) is the he. CW told our BB that she would start documenting the incidents if BB still would not step in and would go to HR if she needed to but would rather not. They did not finish their convo this morning so this afternoon CW tried talking BB to let him know she would rather not go to HR but would if he could not do anything. BB told her “I’m pissed at you because you threatened it and haven’t done anything” and inticed her to follow through. Does that clear it up or just make it more confusing?
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
If you go to HR try and get just the facts down and leave out emotions to a point. Like you can say they raise their voice at employees in front of co-workers (or others) and give examples but try not to get into too much he said/she said detail. I would also never threaten a boss with going to HR, I would just do it, and it’s great you have the emails saved.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
This is more clear. If its making the work environment uncomfortable for you, whether the boss is yelling at you or a coworker, you have the right to go to HR.
Before you go right down the incidents and dates that you can remember and give them that. Tell them you would like to know your options. Once you know what they are and their implications for you and those involved, you can decide what to do.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
The meeting went well from what I have been told. My CW feels SO relieved and didn’t feel bad about it like she thought she would, which is great. Apparently they have other complaints on her, which I figured and am not surprised about. I am going to try to go over there next week. One thing our BB is trying to work on is getting us out from under our current boss’ supervision. Next week will be interesting to say the least.
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