(Closed) Bullying

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Students need to have the balls to effing speak up. I didn’t tolerate that shit when I was in school. I hated when the senior football players would pick on some of the freshmen. I always yelled at them to stop and told a teacher. My dad taught me to not take shit from anyone and don’t watch shit happening to someone else and turn your cheek. 
I’m glad he put that little bastard in his place. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@kingytobe: I heard about this on the radio earlier. I’m glad the bigger kid finally stood up for himself but it never should have gotten that far. When I was in high school kids were teased and bullied relentlessly and some teachers would even join in so it was hard to even tell the teachers sometimes. Bullying is a huge problem in today’s society, but many parents have the mindset of “kids will be kids” unfortunately. At least this is how it was at my school.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Wow, good for the kid who fought back. My parents always told us to stand up for ourselves, and if we (my brother and I) ever got in a fight where we were defending ourselves, we would never be in trouble with them. Bullying is an epidemic today.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Many schools do have a policy on no tolerance to bullying. However, since many students also interact with each other outside of the classroom, and even off of school grounds – it does become increasingly difficult to stop all instances of bullying. Sometimes students are afraid to speak up for fear that they will be considered a fink or just plain weak until they’ve just had enough. Sadly, some parents do have the “kids will be kids” attitude and some teachers are too focused on other aspects of their job and don’t see these things happening until it becomes a bigger issue. As unrealistic as it may be, I think if we’re going to truly fix the problem then we have to start at home.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Unfortunately, even zero-tolerance programs fail. My elementary was zero-tolerance but when I was bullied (pretty vicious stuff, too, like one girl claiming my mother had tried to kill her mother), the teachers always told me I had to be the one to deal with it. =/ I was seven. What the hell is a seven-year-old supposed to do about something like that?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is ALL over the news down here in Australia (It happened at a school not far from me.

This was apparently right outside the principal’s office – the Year 10 student was going to the teacher to let them know that he had had enough?

It is absolutely awful!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Bullying has been a huge problem in my school district (which my younger cousins still attend). In the last 2 years or so, there have been half a dozen suicides caused by bullying. It’s unthinkable.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

@Miss Sydney: That school is literally a few streets away from where I teach. 

It’s sad it got to that level. But what saddens me even more is the mindset of all the people standing around watching and FILMING the incident – apparently there were a whole batch of people there, and instead of intervening against the bullies or backing up with the victim, they thought it best to catch it on tape. Yeah, great help.

Our primary school is having a Stand Up Against Bullies day & parent info session – because it really is something that people need to be educated about.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

My daughter was bullied in kindergarten. To the point that a boy in her class told her he was going to bury her alive. We had to put her in counseling. 

No one at the school listened to my complaints until I refused to let her return to school until something was done. I literally walked her into school one Monday and told them hey either you fix this or you provide my daughter with a tutor.

Kids can be so horrible but a lot of the blame goes on the parents. The girl that started teasing my daughter? Yeah, her mom didn’t like me and said so around her daughter which then let her daughter think it was OK to repeat the horrible things her mom was saying. A five year old doesn’t come up with “your trash cuz your mom’s trash.”

Even after Pheobe Prince’s suicide, the MA schools still stuck at stopping bullying. Having a plan and implementing that plan are two very different things.

If it happens to your kid, you need to be strong for them and you need to fight for them. Don’t let it go as long as I did.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

A five year old doesn’t come up with “your trash cuz your mom’s trash.”

I agree with this completely because I witnessed it first-hand. My mother was (and is) an alcoholic. The bitchiness that starts with parents who disapprove doesn’t end with parents–that shit gets passed on to their kids, who torture the children who already have to live with that reality when they’re not at school. It’s wretched.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@SoontobeMrsA:  You. Are. Awesome.  Like, if I could reach through the computer and hug you I would.

I was tormented for six solid years and no one did a damn thing about it, parents included. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i dont have kids yet but if i ever find out they are bullying somone serious shit is going down. i personally dont recall being bullied very much (though i was picked to date one of the popular kids for “adopt a dork week” in middle school )- i had no idea at the time i just thought wow someone likes me” stupid!

both my borthers were bullied – luckily i was the older sister and could step in on some of it for one of them – the other, we were never at the same school so i couldnt help much but even as an adult he is made fun of – he is a super smart and attractive kid but he has a really deep voice and ears that kinda stick out and he heard some grown man talking about him to someone else while he was at work the other day – making fun of his ears and voice. obviously as an adult he can take care of himself but still the constant badgering of people will really take a toll on you and your self esteem.

good for that kid for standing up for himself. it really makes me sick to hear about all the bullying going on – i dont remember it being that bad when i was in school – yeah kids got picked on but i dont recall it being as bad as the news has made it out to be lately. what is this world coming to?

kids who bully have serious self esteem issues – and are causing self esteem issues for the ones they bully – its a sad cycle.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: you are seriously an amazing mother!

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