(Closed) Bullying

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it’s the case I’m thinking of then it got worldwide attention, and made me cry too. I wish someone had helped her more, somehow.

I was so glad when her tormentor was outed. I hope they got the right guy. If it is, I hope he is convicted of manslaughter. Bullies need to be prosecuted and shamed. That’s the only solution I can think of: that bullies need to be accountable.

A female net-friend of mine was severely physically bullied, but she refused to tell people and I was too far away to help. I hope she is doing ok now. Teenagers can be so cruel.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lia22:  I read an article about the girl – it’s definitely a heartbreaking story. I did my student teaching last semester and was shocked at how cruel the kids could be to each other. It was so shocking to me how horrible these 4th graders could be and the awful things they could say. We had a very meaningful lesson about bullying, but it still did not get through to all of them.

And as a substitute, I see it as well. I don’t know what makes kids think that what they’re doing is okay. 

Bullying needs to be an issue that’s addressed continuously from the very beginning of school and should be reinforced at home. Honestly, it should be taught at HOME, and simply reinforced in the schools. Until that happens, I don’t see it changing. =/

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think what really needs to happen, is that kids need to have someone to listen to them, who they won’t be ashamed to talk to. Our school (when I went to public school) had a counselor or two you could talk to, but everyone knew when you went to talk to one, and kids are mean.

I didn’t know I was depressed at 14. I had lost, metaphorically, my sister (She was my stepsister, and when her dad went to Iraq, she got very depressed and I felt like she hated me and that it was my fault). I had one friend in school, and she had a lot of friends and didn’t know how to handle someone who just needed to know she was wanted and loved.

My parents didn’t understand what was going on. I went to high school, and started getting homeschooled my junior year because I couldn’t take the kids in my school. I was scared of them. They didn’t like me. Perhaps they hated me. I was bullied slightly by about three kids, and stood up to two of them (the girl left before I got a chance).

When I got to college, and finally moved away from my family, I figured out that I needed to see a therapist. And that was what finally helped me. If kids knew there was someone they could talk to without being embarassed, who actually cared, I think a lot of problems could be helped.

But as it is, I understand the thoughts of suicide. I lived it. I was in the hospital. I have charcoal pills at my parents house because I ingested so many sleeping pills one night. I don’t say these things to get sympathy, I was able to get better and stronger by understanding myself. But having a supporting group of loving people around me was the only way I could do it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lia22:  I agree. I had a friend that would bully me throughout our friendship and it caused me to have bad self-esteem. I also have social anxiety now because I’m afraid that the way she told me others viewed me IS the way they viewed me. So if this one single friend who’s bullying wasn’t severe at all caused me to react the way I did, I can’t imagine how those who go through severe bullying daily feel. 

I think every single school should have some system set up to reach out to those who are bullied. I also think people need to lose the “a little bullying never hurt anyone” attitude. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Bullying is, In My Humble Opinion, sadly a part of human nature.  It is a rare group of people, adults or otherwise that does not have some sort of scapegoat and or some sort of bully.  I have witnessed it my entire life.  I think people need to focus on standing up to abusive people.  If you say nothing to stand up for the person being attacked, you are supporting the bully.  I think that is where it needs to start and it is one of the only effective ways of dealing with this.

I have had teachers that are bullies, parents that are bullies, siblings, co-workers that are bullies, professors, classmates, playground kids.  I think it is part of the insecurity of human nature.  I do my best to stand up to them.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The biggest thing I see as a hurdle to stop the bullying is that alot of it is done internationally. For example, if there is an item sold in Australia and the money was sent to another country all you can do is put an objection to the payment on your credit card. If it wasn’t paid for by credit card then you just lost your money.

Until there is some form of punnishment for harrassment over the internet (for celebrities and non-celebs alike) there is NEVER going to be any change. And the only way for a punishment to take place is if they are tracked down and the information is provided to local or international police agencies. There are no REAL punishments except for possible public exposure and subsequent job loss or in VERY rare cases, police fines or jail time. 

While I find it disgusting and abhorrent, alot of trolling done on forums etc brings in traffic and this can lead to income from advertising due to the number of times an ad is displayed and seen. Proper moderation not only needs to be occuring on forums and privately owned/run websites but also the social media sites like Facebook and Twitter.

Kids need to be OFF these sites so that they have time away from school bullies and so they can realise that there is life outside of school and away from the internet. They also need to be taught by PARENTS not teachers at school that they can block someone, or just not add them on these sites and the parents should be monitoring their internet use to prevent the “show us ya bewbs” and “flash us” situations from happening in the first place. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lia22:  Definitely having a strong support system. And I hope that someday I can work with children going through tough times a bit and let them know someone is there.

Bullying won’t change, and the government is slow. Parents are the ones who need to step up and hold their children up when they’re falling down. But doing that is tough, and I can’t blame parents who don’t know what to do, especially with a teenager who is struggling so much already. It’s a tough road.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I was bullied from grade school and high school, and it’s tough. I knew that high school wasn’t that important, but some of the things kids said to me really stuck with me even after graduation. It’s very difficult when you don’t have a support system. The school I went to didn’t have a counselor and the only people who offered to listen were the parents of the kids bullying me, so I knew nothing would ever be done. I also didn’t have anyone to talk to at home. My mom was really popular and my brother was/is too, so they couldn’t relate. I was bullied a lot for my weight and it didn’t change much when I got home. My family also wasn’t supportive or helpful. My mother has always been thin and her advice was to just lose weight, or constantly comparing me to other girls that were thinner than me. And despite the fact that I’m not in high school hasn’t changed the fact that my mom still gets on my case about my weight. It really made me go in a shell that I’ve only recently began to come out of. I went to another high school for my last two years and actually had a pretty decent time. 

Reading stories about bullies really hits home with me and I do wish that kids would realize how cruel they are being. Words can have such a big influence on the way people see themselves for the rest of their lives. I also wish that people in the schools did more about bullying. It’s so sad what these kids have to go through. 

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