Post # 1
Looking for a bit of bee love, i am feeling a bit heartbroken this week..
This weekend my SO had planned a weekend getaway for just the two of us. A few people I know were talking and wondering if this was going to be the trip where he finally pops the big question. I was so excited for the trip, proposal or not, and was trying not the think about a possible proposal at all. Well, as hard as I tried it was on my mind – it did seem like the perfect opportunity and he was being abnormally sweet all weekend so I thought something was up. Well the second night of our trip when I realised nothing was happening, I got emotional – luckily I dont think the SO noticed.. When we got back from our trip I have pretty much been in a zone and not sure how to get out of it..
I keep thinking that it was the perfect time, if he hasnt proposed by now is he ever going to propose? We have talked about it and he knows that this is something that I am wanting/waiting for and have been for quite a few years.. I dont know if I should express my concern again or just keep on keeping on… I am sure this feeling will pass, I have had it before but each and every time that I go through these stages it seems to get worse.. argh..
So bees, if you were me what would you do?
Post # 3
I went through this exact thing! My fiance and I took a trip to Florida for a week in January and I was SURE it would happen. I told everyone and their dog that I would be getting engaged, I was soooo excited. Nothing happened though, my heart was broken and I was so tired of waiting. It happened 5 months later though, on a normal day when I would never have guessed it would happen. Just be patient, I’m sure it will happen soon enough!
Post # 4
I know EXACTLY how you feel. A year ago my man took me to Mt. Vernon/D.C on my dream weekend vacation as a SURPRISE! He had a candle light dinner to boot but nothing. I LOVED that vacation and was just excited for it no matter what but because someone put the thought of a proposal in my head (friends suck sometimes) I was bummed/estastic for quite awhile.
It’ll pass but for the time being, find a hobby. I started drawing again, so now whenever I get the blues I take out my sketchbook and go to town!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I wouldn’t bring it up again. I’ve known quite a few guys who keep putting off their proposal because their girlfriends keep asking/talking about it, and they don’t want it to seem like they are proposing just because the girl bothered them to.
Post # 6
@juliette.eliza: i agree, I know turning off the records running through your mind is tough, Matt & I are headed to Hawaii in Dec…..you never know lol but I know how hard it is to have your hopes crushed. Keep busy & then it’ll be an out of the blue proposal that’ll knock ur socks off!! 😉
Post # 7
Every trip or special night since February has been like this for me….I get excited and it hasnt’ happened yet. I don’t have any advice, since I haven’t been able to figure out how to handle it for myself! It’s hard, just keep remembering that he WILL propose one of these times!
Post # 8
If it makes you feel better, my SO and I vacation twice a year. Going on our 5th trip in October, plus random little weekend getaway. I’ve had about 10 times the let downs lol. 🙂 You just need to quit expecting it, which is HARD! Trust me. I don’t even expect that he is going to do on one of our vacations anymore – so I just go with the attitude to have a fricken fantastic time 🙂 And as I’ve stated before on a few other posts, when I have my moments I grab a drink from the bartender 😀
It may seem too cliched for him to do it on a holiday.. maybe he will wait for a random time? My dad proposed to my mom when she was finished doing the dishes after supper LOL. She reminds him of this every year on their anniversary hahaha.
@juliette.eliza: I agree. There was a time about a year ago where I went SUPER wedding crazy and my SO was like, “Whoah now, chill out. Be patient. If you quit bugging me about it, it will happen. Because if I do it when you keep bugging me about it, you’re going to regret it and think I didn’t want to do it myself”
I was upset but he had a point. I’ve gotten past that part thank god, still have my my moments. and still waiting… that was last fall… anytime now LOL.
Post # 9
Thanks bees!!! 🙂
For now, I will just try not to bring it up and keep strong and definately not expect a proposal during any future vacations..