(Closed) Bummed – older FI issue

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I hear you. When I was 30 I dated a 42 year old that was divorced with a daughter. I was at the point where I wanted to get married and start a family and he wasn’t – been there, done that, no rush to do it again. That didn’t last more than a few months. But since you’re engaged I hope you kind find a middle ground! 

Post # 4
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@newcitylights: When I clicked on this thread I thought he was going to be in his 60s! LOL .31 is still young. Sounds like you found yourself a great guy…who’s rational and money wise . Think of the alternative 

Post # 5
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newcitylights:  My Fiance is older than me too, and I am sooo much more spontaneous. It can be difficult sometimes, but then I sit and remember that isn’t the reason why I love him. I just had to accept that if we were going to go and experience anything, then I would have to be the one who was in charge of it. He’s already done so much that I will never get the chance to do. So you kinda just have to make new stuff happen!

Post # 6
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@newcitylights:  NO worries…Mr. 99 is 8 years older than I am and TRUST me, just because your older than someone does not mean you can’t learn things from them….I actually like how calm and collected he is about certain issues, it’s comforting to have someone that’s been to that rodeo before…and sure, he’s got a lot of experience under his belt, what he lacks is experiencing things with me…I can still teach that old dog new tricks!

Post # 7
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Im 22 & my Fiance is 29, He’s been around the block a few times in a few areas but with me its always a new experience. When we do something he did before with someone else, he always says its new to him because we’re doing it together. If you feel that way i think you should share that with him. No matter age difference, hes your bestfriend. Share all feelings with him espically if youre feeling lonely and like you cant do certain things with him. & my Fiance is the same way about money.. but we all have to live.. sometimes ill just book a trip for us out of the blue.. if we have the money of course and he wont complaint about it. When we did the money wont come with us.. is what i tell him all the time. 🙂 Best of luck! 

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