- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So, FI’s bachelor party was over the weekend, and I think I feel more tired than FI. Like a lot of other bees, we talked about just some basic ground rules. I told him I didn’t care what he was doing (as long as it was not someone else), but that I would really appreciate it if he would just shoot me a text at the end of the night to let me know that he was safe. Fast forward to the weekend. I did everything I was supposed to do to keep my mind off of the bachelor party debauchery. I went out to sushi with my friend on Friday night, I went to lunch with my sisters on Saturday (which turned into a semi-drunken slumber party), and I definitely wasn’t contacting him. I hadn’t heard from him around 2:30 am, so I just sent him short text saying I hoped he was having fun and to just shoot me a short text later letting me know he survived the night. He never responded. So, needless to say, I had a rough sleep that night. Actually, I didn’t sleep a wink because I was so worried. Ultimately, I calmed down and got through the rest of my Sunday. He ended up texting me back in the morning, but with no mention of the “safe message.” I guess I was only bummed because I wasn’t being clingy or overbearing. I just asked him to do that one thing. I know I’m not allowed to be pissed because it’s his bachelor party, but I just felt hurt. When he came home last night, I just told him why I was bummed. He explained that he had passed out on his friend’s couch around midnight. I totally believe him; I have no reason not to trust him (or the guys he was with). I just felt bummed that he couldn’t think of me for 2 seconds at the end, just to tell me he was safe, especially when I asked him. When I get drunk without him (which I do on occasion), I always send him something letting him know that I’m ok. Even if I am fall-down, almost passed out drunk, I still think of him. When he got home, he got mad at me for being worried and feeling sad, and suggested that I downgrade to a “Stage 4 Clinger.” Was my request clingy? I seriously only wanted the peace of mind of knowing that he was safe at the end of the night.