Post # 32
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Bumble bee
@KJM33: This put a huge smile on my face, thank you! My blood boils all the time because of her 🙁 unfortunately. On my way home from work today I was talking to my mom and had a complete meltdown in the car (insert profanities and hysteric crying and “I hate her I hate her I hate her”… it got so ugly)
@This Time Round: oooh, I do like that idea 🙂
@paula1248: She’s psychotic, and I totally get what you’re saying… It hurts me so bad though because I can tell she is also making him unhappy, and he’s like… sad that she is being like this. He may not be doing an amazing job of “sheilding” me, but he really is trying (it’s definately new for him, since he’s very mommas boy) but he’s really working on it, and I can see him standing his ground/telling her off more and more… I think he is frustrated that she’s not learning and that he HAS to be having these convos with her. He hates how she is being too 🙁
It’s just sad.
Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
But seriously though, stop giving in. You are showing her that if she acts insane enough she will win. You don’t want to create this pattern now because when you have kids it will be worse. Time to sit your Fiance down and agree to stand up to her. She’s not paying, she does not get to make demands.
Post # 34
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Bumble bee
@axeyourmakeupkit: I cannot believe I didn’t comment on how much I LOVED this.
@Loribeth: sigh, so true 🙁
Post # 35
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Bumble bee
**Update:
I had a bit of a catharsis in the car on the way home yesterday. Crying and screaming. I looked crazy.
BUT, by the time I got home- I felt SO much better and so much lighter. I slept like a baby last night and am in a much better place this morning..
Sometimes I think a good cry really helps.
Post # 36
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Helper bee
@LGenz: This is exactly what I was going to say. If you don’t deal with it now, it will only continue to cause you problems in the future!
Post # 37
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Bumble bee
**UPDATE**
I am no longer a bummed out bee. My Fiance has recently made a decision which has made me feel so much better and amazingly emotionally support and like we really are a team and his mom doesn’t get to run the show. I’m feeling… not victorious, but just really really REALLY good and really happy.
I’m finally excited about our wedding again 🙂
Post # 38
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Sugar bee
@mayflowerbride13: Yay!! Good for you =) It just makes life so much easier when you and your Fiance are on the same page
Post # 39
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Busy bee
Yay!!!! Just don’t tell her your wedding plans anymore… invite who YOU want to invite (if she insists on extras, tell her she’ll need to pay for them), since you clearly don’t know how to plan a real wedding 😉 Screw her. I’m glad you are feeling better, and that you and your fiance are a united front!!
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