(Closed) Bummed That A Friend Can’t Attend – Lame Excuse

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know her personally, but in this economy, I can understand her not wanting to possibly be overly tired or hungover for an interview the next day.  I don’t know how far your wedding is from where she is, maybe she could at least attend the ceremony and then leave?  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

She probably can’t help when she has a job interview!!  You chose to have your wedding on a Sunday; that makes it a lot harder for people with work obligations like that. It doesn’t seem fair to me to hold that against her.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MadameTussaud:  maybe she could at least attend the ceremony and then leave? 

That’s a good suggestion, if she lives a driveable distance from the wedding.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She might not be able to control when the job interview is. And in this economy, to get an interview is a big deal – you don’t blow it off.

I’ve got dear, close friends who can’t come to mine because they have to work. It sucks, but there’s no getting around it. 

Sorry she can’t make it. Try to see if she’ll schedule some one on one time with you on another occasion, and if she seems happy about that, you’ll know this was unavoidable. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think a job interview is a legit excuse.  They don’t come around often, they don’t come with a ton of notice and the interviee has little control over the scheduling.  Wish her luck on her interview and try not to be too disappointed.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m sorry that you’re disappointed but I don’t think a job interview is a lame excuse unless she lives 10 mintues from the wedding (or some other short driving distance) and could leave after the ceremony, therefore still getting home early enough for a good night’s rest. If that’s not the case then I think you need to just be an understanding friend. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

Unless she has to travel far for your wedding or you’re having it start late at night, I don’t see how that’s a valid reason not to attend.  However, I wouldn’t call her out on it but rather accept it as what it is – a friend who is unable to attend.  I once didn’t attend a wedding because I couldn’t afford the tanks of gas it would take to get there (2 hours to get there) or a gift.  :S

Post # 10
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Helper bee

She probably had no control over the timing.  And in this job market, she is wise to spend the day before the interview preparing.  I would not let this drive a wedge in your friendship.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@RealTimeWed1:  🙂 Yay! I know it’s really disappointing not to have a close friend there, but in this case it’s definitely good that you won’t hold it against her.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with PP. With the current economy, I wouldn’t do anything that could potentially hurt my chances of getting a job. That could include trying to reschedule the interview, staying out too late the night before, etc. for your friend, so I wouldn’t take it personally. It does suck though. Sorry! 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@RealTimeWed1:  If it’s an in town wedding, how disappointing. But you sound like such an understanding friend 🙂 Congrats on your day!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think that is a lame excuse at all but I certainly understand your disappointment.

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