Post # 1
I don’t know why but I’m super bummed. Maybe it’s just the mention of BF planning “a surprise” for me, and the fact that I know he can more than afford to buy a ring, or that he keeps talking about getting himself expensive toys. Part of me is just starting to loose hope. Boo!
I know that V-Day and our anniversary are both coming up (not on the same day). I know that it could be coming. I just wish I saw more signs… or any sign really.
Post # 3
Hang in there…I know it’s hard. Maybe your surprise will be a ring!
Post # 4
I went to a happy hour yesterday and learned that 2 more couples from his grad school class got engaged. One was a couple that has dated exactly as long as we have. I kind of looked to them as an anchor you know? “As long as they’re not engaged I’m still ok…I still have time.”
Now I officially have the longest relationship that I know of that isn’t engaged.
I’ve been kind of down for the last 24 hours. :
Post # 5
I know how you feel…. I had a bad waiting day today too… It comes and goes, I hope it gets better for you!! Just know it’s coming and it’ll happen when the time is right and perfect 🙂
I keep telling myself to be thankful I have a man that knows he wants to marry me! And it will happen someday soon. Some bees on here have SOs that “aren’t sure” or are dragging their feet for no good reason and my heart breaks for them. It sounds like he knows he wants to be with you, it’s just a matter of time for the ring to come.
Post # 6
@Taylor4: Hugs! That sound sucky. I hope today is a better day for you.
Post # 7
@Taylor4: One was a couple that has dated exactly as long as we have. I kind of looked to them as an anchor you know? “As long as they’re not engaged I’m still ok…I still have time.”
Now I officially have the longest relationship that I know of that isn’t engaged
I feel your pain! I had 2 of my closest friends get engaged this past summer, and I had thought exactly what you did. As long as they didn’t get engaged, I was good. I also felt this way about 2 couples my SO is close with. Same thing.
All 4 couples are now engaged, have been since last year, and we’re now the last couple out of everyone we know that hasn’t gotten engaged/married yet. On certain days, it really gets me down. For now I’m trying everything I can to push it out of my head and just keeping thinking good thoughts. Easier said than done, but I’m still trying. We’ll get our own moment to shine soon enough. It’s not a race. I just have to keep remembering that. Comparing our relationship to others’… just doesn’t feel good. When I catch myself doing it, I just remind myself that hey, our relationship is awesome, and at least this way… our wedding will be done in its own time, people will be able to come celebrate with us, rather than it being around the same time as all our friends’ weddings! 🙂
Post # 8
Hang in there Curlydreamer.. It is tough but maybe he might start dropping hints soon with V-Day and your anniversary coming up.. 🙂 Hopefully it will happen soon!
Today was a bit of a disapointment too for me. I am kinda wondering if a proposal is coming this upcoming weekend too.. But how my boyfriend has been talking it doesn’t seem like it.. Some opportunities that I thought he might be able to do it, it doesn’t sound like he is interested in.. He doesn’t seem to give any idea of what kind of proposal he would want to do.. acting very non chaleant and aloof.. bah..
Post # 9
It’s hard :-(. We are LDR, so it really limited times where he could propose. I would get myself all worked up before a visit and come home feeling deflated. He ended up surprising me by coming into town unannounced and proposing then.
It is so hard (and honestly, there are a lot of times I need to practice what I preach), but try not to compare yourselves to other couples. I used to be so bummed that I didn’t get married at 22-23, because that’s when my friends in youth group (who were a few years older than me) got married. Well, out of five of those marriages that happened at those age, two of them are now divorced. I don’t wish that on anyone, but there is something to be said for taking your time and getting to know someone! My Fiance and I were the second-to-last to get engaged out of our group of friends (last goes to a friend who just recently started dating someone seriously), and we had been together the longest. I am also the oldest out of our group of friends, so that stung a bit, too!
Also, I had quite a bit of information about my proposal. I knew that it would be by the end of summer 2010, I knew he had gotten the diamond from my mom at a certain point, and I had a feeling that he was looking at a ring at a certain point. However, my proposal was still a complete surprise! I had no clue! Some guys are just really, really good at pulling off surprises. Maybe your guy is, too!
Post # 10
hugs ladies – hoping you feel much better now!