(Closed) Bummed..onto Month # 2 of TTC

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Awww, I’m sorry it didn’t take the first try! But just think – that just means you get to have a lot more fun trying! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

It makes sense to be disappointed.  I think it’ll be harder on my husband if there’s no baby this month because he wants to feel like he has super sperm. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I hear ya…its been 7 months trying for us.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Go to fertilityfriend.com and take their online course. Then, get yourself “taking charge of your fertility.”

The reason people always laugh at the “calendar method” is because it simply doesn’t work. So if it doesn’t work to prevent, it’s not going to be exact for accomplishing either ๐Ÿ˜‰

Don’t stress (that won’t help ๐Ÿ™‚ and try and relax. Learn how to read your cervical fluid so you know when your best chances are… 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I will tell you, month #2 wasn’t as bad (anxious wise) and month #1.  There must be some sort of plateau that you hit.  Maybe.  I dunno.  Here’s to my month #2 and good luck on yours!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with KLP…that book is excellent

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Unfortunately, it’s very normal to “try” for multiple months. It’s actually very rare to get pregnant in the first couple tries. I heard somewhere that, even when you are ovulating, there is only a 25% chance of actual conception (not sure if this is true, I can’t remember the source) Which amazes me really, think of all the people who get “surprise!” babies when they aren’t even TTC.

I think they key is to try and not think too hard about it. It will only stress you out. However, if you are having concerns about not conceiving, going to the doctor never hurts either. It doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” with you, but they could provide some insight.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I find that those online calendars usually give a fair range, but it’s just that, a range.  The first month we went with our “range” but actually missed the right days because I was so stressed from the wedding and travel that I ovulated late and had a long cycle.  This month I actually ovulated 4 days AFTER the calendars said I would (who knows why) which I know because we started using an ovulation predictor kit. 

Yes, it’s $20 bucks a month so I can pee on sticks, but it’s totally worth it knowing that we are hitting the right days and increasing our chances of some baby magic!  So that would be my advice, no guarantees but better odds.

Best of luck and good wishes to you!

 

(note:  I know this works because we conceived the first month using the kit but I later miscarried so we are back to the kits and the dreaded tww)

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I know that feeling, but we ended up getting preggo on the second month. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@Blondiebee:  It’s not the calendar method–Sympto-thermal Method is Natural Family Planning/Fertility Awareness.  It gives you the ability to know precisely when you ovulate (based on fertility signs–cervical fluid, cervical position, temperature shifts, etc), you can use this information to either try to conceive or try to avoid pregnancy.  I seriously encourage you to check it out b/c it can account for varying cycles.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I understand the feeling. We are on month 4 of trying and although I’m a day late right now I have a feeling that AF is right around the corner. 

Good luck. Try to be patient (although i’m not very good at it), and it will all work out.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Counting on the calender is only useful if your cycle is really regular, but if it is there’s no reason it won’t help figure out when you should TTC, worked for us!

I was bummed out each and every month it didn’t take, but it did get less crummy as the months wore on. I did try and psych myself up for a stress-free experience each month though – you’ve gotta have fun, once it becomes a chore it’s just brutal!

Good luck in month #2!

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