(Closed) Bummer out – Need friend/MOH advice..

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know how you feel 🙁 My best friend resigned as my Maid/Matron of Honor because she was getting married a month before me and “Can’t afford to come/Doesn’t want to leave her new husband so soon after marrying him” (In reality, (I got it out of her in so many words) she was pissed because I changed my date from September to July and had a venue booked before she did and she wanted to be “first”).

I’m still in her wedding and it’s super awkward and kinda sad, but that’s another story -_-

Your best bet and my advice would be to be honest with her. Tell her you feel like she’s checked out of the process and you need her to be there for you… Not in a bridezilla way, but because she’s your friend and you need support. I’m sure if you’ve been friends that long she’ll understand.

Post # 4
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would definitely talk to her.  Just ask her what’s going on and hopefully she can be honest with you about her feelings.

It may come down to her not being that person who is super excited about your wedding, but she may still want to be Maid/Matron of Honor.  Even though you may have very involved in hers – none of my friends (while I know they cared) were super duper excited.  

Do you have realistic expectations about what you desire from her?  What is she not doing that you want her to?

Post # 5
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just tell her what you said here:  you feel like she is distant lately from wedding plans and hanging out and you want to know if there is anything wrong.  It sounds like she might want a break from all the wedding stuff, or she might have something else bothering her altogether.  

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