Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until 9/7/13 but i’m already burned out. my mom is pushing for me to get all this stuff done even though its still over a year away! i laready have our church and my mom went to meet the lady for the reception hall and put the deposit down (I was still at work, didn’t get out in time). She brought home the listing and it’s a great deal cause the lady does everything: catering, linens, etc. I just want to relax and not have to do anything for awhile but she keeps saying all these things to do and gets upset when i tell her that its too early and i dont want to do anything right now. any advice on how to talk to her?
Post # 3
@wishingonadream04: It sounds like she’s just really excited for you. Maybe if you gave her a specific task to do (like find you an awesome baker or florest ) that would help / keep her occupied for a little while.
Post # 4
Try to be patient with her – she is excited. Maybe you can ask her to “help” you come up with a timeline for when things should happen? Then she can have her input, and feel like she’s been listened to, but you’ll also have an opportunity to weigh in and say, “I’d really prefer to wait on picking out the menu until next summer, but we can definitely go gown shopping over Thanksgiving Day weekend if you want.”
(BTW, I was just throwing that out there randomly, but I have heard that the slow season – and the best time to get a discount – in the gown biz is right before the holidays. Right afterward, all the Christmas/New Years/Valentines Day engagements start coming dress shopping and it gets crazy. So maybe you can tell your mom about that?)
And, actually, since she is so excited about it, maybe that can work in your favor … steer her toward projects you don’t really care about/want to have to deal with? Just a thought.
Post # 5
I should probably add that I am not much of a planner and hate planning anything so this whole wedding thing is driving me crazy having to do all this work so dog gone early. I’m a procrastinator by nature so that’s probably why.