(Closed) Burnt out after 2 months of engagement, OMG!!

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

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x3leesa:  seriously, look into parks in your area for both your ceremony and reception. super bonus points if there’s a building or gazebo. in my area, I could rent an empty building with capacity for 100 on state-owned land, on a Saturday, for about 1k. is it super glamorous? no. but it IS an option! check out the parks available in your municipality and see if any meet your needs.  

Post # 3
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

have you thought about renting a house with a large backyard or something like that?  Then you don’t have to worry about anything related to using outside catering.  I would rent it for the weekend and just talk to the property management company about what you want to do.  That might help you save some cash.

Post # 4
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

OK…it looks like youre working to a VERY tight budget here! The single best way to save costs on your wedding is to drastically cut your guest list – possibly not an option for you but it would save you a HECK of a lot of hassle and heartache and CASH!  My advice would be to prioritise what is most important to you and your Fiance – is it a formal meal?  Lots of booze?  Special location?  Many guests?  Professional photography?  A good place to start may be to pinpoint what you cant do without as with such a tight budget you just wont be able to have all of these things.  Good luck bee!

Post # 7
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Make a list of your priorities and do a lot of research. To prevent yourself from being surprised about photography costs for example, get price ranges from a variety of photographers whose work you think is good enough to choose for your wedding. 

We made a budget based on going through a mini-planning period several times. The first time our costs for what we wanted added up to be too much money, so we downsized and dropped some things and re-calculated. The new costs were doable for us to get married next year. 

Post # 11
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Consider unusual venues that don’t usually do catering – art galleries, museums, etc. Historical buildings?

Consider quaint restaurants or breweries that would work with you on a reasonable dinner menu and let you hold the whole she-bang there. They might be more receptive if you are willing to consider a Sunday wedding or one in the off season, like January.

Surely there are wedding venues that are a bit out of town and focus on local weddings. I’m thinking like just a pretty house with land out of the city that specializes in weddings. There simply must be something!

Post # 15
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

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x3leesa:  W/R/T having a wedding on a Sunday with family in CA – you’re being AWFULLY accomodating of all these people that are a stretch for you to invite. TBH, on your budget, I wouldn’t be. if they’re not going to be willing to take ONE day off of work, or fly and rent a car, then that’s on them, not you (and it helps trim your budget without stepping on any feelings).

did you have any luck looking at restaurants? when I was engaged the first time (so, so glad that didn’t work), we were looking at getting married in Seattle, on a Thursday, at a very upscale restaurant, with DIY flowers. total super-researched cost? 2k, for everything, and I mean EVERYTHING.

other ways to cut cost:

-use an art school student (or two) as photogs

– assign a maid to be your DOC

– restaurants are indoors, and they already have decor. ta da, cheap! pick one near a court house.

– picnic sounds great. figure out somewhere to pitch a tent, and instead of renting tables, put cloth down on the ground, and REALLY picnic it up. if everyone knows ahead of time, they should be dressed appropriately and fine. bring pillows for elderly relatives to sit on.

– know anybody with a big backyard?

– have the wedding be a potluck.

– is there a church that will let you pitch a tent on their property?

– I have a cousin getting married at a memorial chapel at a funeral house. super nontraditional, but it was the only way they could afford a Saturday (her family is from Brazil, so I will cut them some slack on travel)

– decorate with pennants/bunting (make them from fabric from the $1 bins at craft/fabric stores) instead of flowers or candles

– do pies/cheesecake instead of actual cake.


hope this helps!

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