(Closed) Burnt out after 2 months of engagement, OMG!!

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

What about Craig Ranch? It’s new, massive, is just completing a lake and a couple buildings. The construction gates should be coming down soon. Or Mt. Charleston? That is tougher with logistics though. I live in Vegas too and will try to think of more places. There is Rainbow Gardens, not ideal. It brings the outdoors in is the off season is better in your budget. You can go to Worst Receptions recent thread, page 4 first comment is my personal review of the place. The weather here is best in October, April can be tricky. Also, another budget friendly local food is an In N Out truck. There are so many gourmet food trucks in our area, if Famous Dave’s doesn’t work out then one of those could be perfect for a park wedding.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Marquee - Private Property

Totally feeling the ‘stickler for a plan’ part… my best honest advice? Go rogue! We are getting married on a farm with incredible views and I just asked the farmer if it was okay to get married there. The only other weddings he’s had are his daughters. It will save you a bucketload of cash and you can totally customise it into a unique day x

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Okay I don’t know what it’s like in Vegas but if you’re thinking about renting a tent and stuff for an outdoor wedding…I’d think again. It sounds easy but when you rent a tent (most tents are pretty expensive for what you’ll need), you also need to rent tables and chairs and plates and linens and…the list just goes on. 

I would look at a venue where you DO NOT have to bring anything like that in, meaning they’ll provide it for you. Much cheaper usually. If you’re thinking about having a restaurant you like cater, why not think about having the actual reception AT the restaurant? 

And I know you said your families want you to invite a lot of people, but I would simply tell them that is not in your budget. It’s very nice that they’re giving you 3k towards the reception but unless they’re planning on giving you enough money to cover all the people they want you to invite then it’s not up to them to dictate the guest list. 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

One of the most beautiful weddings I’ve been to was a breakfast wedding.  If your guests are local/would already be there, an outdoor breakfast might just be the ticket!  It’s a lot cheaper for food, and you would save on alcohol as well (maybe just do a make your own bloody mary bar and a mimosa/bellini station).  Then, if you really want to party, you could just pick a bar and time and people could go out later that night, after doing their thing throughout the day.  This would allow you to have more people involved at a lower cost.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

My suggestion is to talk to your ILs about the guest list. While I understand they are “covering the reception”, if you can’t afford the other stuff that comes along with a big reception (photog, DJ, rentals, etc), the 3K theyre providing really isn’t going to help you out. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I don’t have much advice, but I just want to say that I totally feel where you’re at right now as I’m going through pretty much the same thing! I got engaged about a month ago and finding a venue that will work with our small budget and allow us to bring in our own food and booze has been pretty much impossible! I think I’ve text my fiancé a few times asking if we can just elope. Haha.

Good luck! I think a lot of bees here have given some great advice if you can work them in. Sundays tend to be cheaper at venues if you can do that, or you could always have a park wedding or backyard wedding with some DIY!

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

x3leesa:  Don’t be afraid to cut down the guest list. It’s great that family is giving you money, but they need to understand that a few thousand dollars doesn’t necessarily pay for a reception if they want you to invite 200 people! Crunching the numbers and making a spreadsheet might help show them the reality if you get to that point and realize there is actually NO way to have a big wedding. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee

x3leesa:  Hugs!  I don’t know if you’ve found this site before, but they have real weddings sorted by budget: http://thebudgetsavvybride.com/wedding-budgets/

It can help give you some ideas for what you can do on a shoe string budget while still having a ceremony and reception that’s what you want. 

 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Have you looked into the package deals that venues offer? Fiance and I booked Emerald at Queensridge. For $8500 we get a weeknight wedding for up to 100, including food, booze, photographer, dj and officiant. I think afternoon weddings are even cheaper. Of course you can spend a lot of upgrades, but the basic package is pretty great. We found a lot of venues would work really hard to get us a deal in our price range–even the fancy country clubs gave us great offers, but we really liked the privacy of Emerald. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You really need to sit the IL’s down. I don’t think they realize how little the 3k will stretch. We had a 45 guest wedding and spent $5k on food and drinks alone. I think if you showed them a breakdown of costs for the reception they might understand that their guest list requests are out of hand.

If not – pay for the reception yourself so you can ensure things are done the way you want and you won’t feel obligated to invite everyone they say to invite. 

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