Burnt Out Working Mom. Should I Become a SAHM?

posted 4 months ago in Home
Post # 31
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Blushing bee

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cblank181 :  Please go to therapy and also consider medication. This sounds like depression and anxiety rather than a situation where you need to be staying at home. I think quitting your job will make it even worse because you will be isolated and not have something forcing you to leave the house every day. 

Get the treatment you need. Once you are stable then consider career options with the help of your therapist. 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

Can you afford to be a stay at home Mom?  Considering your wage and also health insurance and retirement costs?  I feel like most women I know with small children would rather stay at home full time or at least part time, myself included, but can’t afford it. :/. I get the yoga thing.  When I get home I only have a couple of hours until my so goes to bed.  Maybe you can find part-time work instead?

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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cblank181 :  You sound overwhelmed. Where is your husband in all this?  Does he do his fair HALF of all the childcare and his fair HALF of the house chores/ cooking etc? Or are *you* bearing the brunt of everything while trying to work fulltime too??

 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would like to speak to you as a feminist, as someone who is glad that women have all kinds of career opportunities that they did not have in the past. STAY HOME WITH YOUR CHILD for a while. It is obvious that is what you WANT. Trust what your feelings are telling you. That infant needs to bond with YOU; he doesn’t just need a caretaker. He needs YOU.

Post # 35
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Newbee

Yes, you should stay at home with your baby. No one can predict with any accuracy whether or not it will help your mental wellness, but it couldn’t hurt to try! If it’s possible financially then you should absolutely give it a go. 

For perspective, I stayed home with my son until he was three. I was very much an attachment parenter and I believe that the bee’s that are calling your attachment to your son unhealthy are straight up wrong. It is natural and normal to want to be with your infant all the time. I was always with mine and I never once felt the need for a break. He is now a healthy, happy, independent and caring seven year old. 

Going back to work when you have an infant is a very American thing and is very unnatural. This is not a dig at Americans. It is just so ingrained in the culture there that people think it’s absurd for mothers to not work. It is completely and totally normal throughout the rest of the world. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

If you can afford to stay at home, sounds to me like you should! You can go back to work when he’s in pre k. 

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