(Closed) Business Trip – am I being ridiculous?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

He might have to go along with it because it’s his job.

Maybe they’re giving him more responsibility. I know it sucks- I have to travel a lot for my job too. But he has a job. That’s a good thing. Just suck it up as best you can- vent here and to your friends, but try to be supportive and nice to him. He can’t help that his office is doing things at the last minute.

Post # 4
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I run into some of the same feelings a lot, too, when my Fiance has to work late. Sometimes he stops after midnight. I try to always be upset WITH HIM that he has to work so much, and not upset AT HIM for missing out on time with me.

But what’s up with the weekend trips? What sorts of work is going on during the weekend? Does this mean he works less that week to make up for working over the weekend?

I know what it’s like to feel one way and know better… I think most all of us do. I’m not sure what else to say without knowing more about what he does and why these trips would be on such short notice (a point you already made!). What would ever happen if he had to decline a trip because he was previously committed to other plans? 

I’m sorry to hear this. Hopefully this is a very rare occurance for you two. 

Post # 5
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Ugh, I am so sorry! I would definitely be frustrated too… I can definitely sympathize, because my FI’s company has a lot of higher-ups who are single/uninvolved, and so they’ve done a bunch of crappy things like scheduling company events on Valentine’s day evening (WTF???), and they never invite spouses/FI’s to company events. 


I don’t know what field your Fiance is in, but these are tough times in a lot of fields, and he may not feel like it’s wise for him to appear "difficult." Maybe if the economic situation were more secure, he would feel alright about standing up for himself and his personal time. If there were ever a time to bend over backwards for your job, it’s right about now.


And on the positive side, the fact that they’re sending him on all these trips may mean that they trust him and think very highly of him, and that’s very good for his job security & career advancement. I mean, it still sucks that they’re not giving him adequate warning, but maybe it at least means good things.


Anyway, I’m sorry and I hope you find a good way to work around it.

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