(Closed) But I don't FEEL married!

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Lol! People ask ALL the time. “How’s married life?”

the EXACT same as before! Lol, yesterday was first time a new doctors office used my new last name. It’s not like I jump up “that’s me!” – I recognize it because it’s my husbands last name. I think the name thing is the most odd thing for me. Like I’m in limbo between two people. 

Post # 17
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9632 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

wait, i’m confused.  you haven’t had an opportunity to call him husband?  have you not seen him.  go up to him and say “hello husband” in a very sexy voice.   or if you are at work right now, call him and say it or next time he calls you.

also, what does it feel like to be married?  for us, we lived together for a little over a year.  nothing changed.  i was just as happy.  we just had a piece of paper to make it official.

Post # 18
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4296 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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gloaming:  Nothing felt different after DH and I got married last month, either. Nothing really changes. We lived together, couldn’t take a honeymoon after the wedding, and went back to our normal lives right after. We had been saying long before we ever tied the knot that we were already married: We lived together, had a life together, paid bills together–that is marriage. Things don’t magically change just because you got married.

Post # 19
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1305 posts
Bumble bee

Nothing “changes” when you get married, don’t worry.  I mean, it does and it doesn’t.  

Post # 20
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4807 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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gloaming:  Do you have photos of your wedding?  If so, print one and put it out where you see it!  That will be a great visual reminder that you are married!!

Post # 21
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202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

What does it mean to feel married? nothing changes. We get a lot of questions like “how does it feel to be married” and both of us respond with “the same?” haha! I don’t know why it would feel any different. Maybe it feels different for couples that move in with each other after marriage, but that’s becasue it’s a new and big change that takes adjusting. But getting married doesn’t change the relationship. 

Post # 22
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760 posts
Busy bee

I too don’t “feel married” in the way that anything about me or our relationship has changed, but honestly that’s what I wanted. I didn’t want marriage to change us. I think of him now and feel a little bit of a closer bond than I would have as bf/gf or even fiances. To me our relationship feels stronger and that’s all I need. Sorry if this doesn’t help.

Post # 23
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t feel married until recently (we just passed our first anniversary) and we never live together prior to our wedding… I think it takes some times to have that feeling sink in 

Post # 24
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I got married last month and people love to ask the question “so hows married life??” We did NOT live together before we got married out of respect for my traditional parents. After we got married i felt happy, but i’m not sure what feeling married feels like. I mean honestly the only thing in our relationship that’s changed is that i have a new last name and we live together. But i didn’t realize i was supposed to feel married. I think maybe that if i felt differently after we got married then something might be off. Maybe that’s why your other marriage(s) failed. 

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