Post # 1
It’s way out from my wedding, but both my best friend (MOH) and sil (bridesmaid) have been asking me about showers and bachlorette stuff…and I don’t want either! They seem to understand that these traditional parties don’t really suit my personality, but still seem to want to do something. I totally appreciate the thought, but all I want to do is go out to a casual dinner with them, my mamma, and my mamma in law. No gifts, not a ton of people, not much attention on me! I just want a relaxed girls night….
Are you hoping for something similar? What are your reasons?
I’m just not that type of bride/gal that enjoys these types of parties! I’m so so quiet and low key.
Post # 3
I’m not even engaged or anything, but I know for my hen night/bachelorette party I don’t want to go out for a big night on the town drinking as much as my poor liver can bear.
I live near a very popular theme park that has a hotel with specially decorated suites, with a spa and waterpark and all sorts of fun stuff.
I want to go the theme park, stay in the hotel with my friends and possibly have a massage or something. No shots, no kissing ugly bald guys on the head, none of that caper for me! Just a fun time with some close friends that matter. If any of the non-theme park people want to spend some time with me, I’d rather go out for a Chinese meal at a nice restaurant.
Post # 4
Maybe for your bachelorette party, you could take a spa weekend or visit a winery. I think a lot of people have moved away from the bar and stripper type deal. There are plenty of other options out there!
Post # 5
We’re going out to dinner and then to a bar. But there’s going to be some rules. Like me being able to walk MYSELF to the cab.
Post # 6
I dont want them but i know ill get them… My reasoning is just that I really dont want to take more time out of my schedule for a party for my wedding… my wedding day will be a party, I dont want to drag it out. They can give me the gifts at the wedding… that is fine with me… dont they want the extra purchase time??
Post # 7
I hear ya. I don’t want a bachelorette party. I think bachelor/ette parties are wrong. I would not cheat on my Fiance (strippers are cheating imo) and I would not marry a man who would not let me have girls nights with my friends after we were married.
I just don’t get it.
Post # 8
My FH and I didn’t want bachelor/ette parties either, but both bms’ and gms were insisiting on “something”. We talked and set ground rules-no strippers (neither of us wanted them to begin with), and we would prefer to have something together if (i.e dinner w/friends, joint party, group outing at the White Sox etc)…so the bridal party has made plans respecting our wishes but still taking us out the same night, staring seperate then joining the two groups-we don’t get to know the details beforehand but i’ll share after it happens saturday :). Somethings you just have to do with your girls (and him with the guys) and we both know there will be guys/girls night after the wedding so it’s not like a “last fee night” thing, just our friends doing something special and a fun night 🙂
Post # 9
I’m hoping that we will do something similar to what i did for my best friend. Dinner, then my favorite club/bar for a bachelorette party. But no drunken craziness, just hanging out with the girls and getting a hotel for the night. As for a shower, I wouldn’t mind something very small, but I’m not really looking forward to it since i get really anxious when all attention is on me.
Post # 10
I’m the same way. I just would much rather just have a relaxed evening. The idea of having some sweaty stripper in front of me while I try and pretend like im having a good time just makes me cringe.
Showers – also awkward- especially opening gift after gift and acting suprised/excited every time. But what can you do… I dont want to seem ungrateful so I just keep in mind they are excited for me and hope my close friends will keep in mind my personality when they plan this stuff
Post # 11
I didn’t want any of these either. I actually had a real panic moment when my aunt wanted to throw me a bridal shower! Luckily I was able to delegate my Maid/Matron of Honor to head it off at the pass. She gently told the aunt (her mom) why I didn’t want one and it all worked out fine. Thank God! She was going to put an ad in the paper and invite everyone in town!!
Post # 12
Yikes @mandyrose! I didn’t want a traditional shower either. I couldn’t stand opening presents in front of everyone, and having a whole party centered around me. Instead we are having a jack and jill bbq party. It will be co-ed, no games, and Fiance will help me open the gifts that are supposed to be either for the kitchen or outside activities. I’m actually looking forward to it!
Post # 13
When my friends found out I was getting married, they got really excited about the idea of throwing a bachelorette party, and I’m already preparing on how to turn them down.
They’re really party girls who love to go get trashed and hook up with random dudes every weekend, and I’m not like that At ALL! I can just see them buying a bunch of penis tiaras or something, eeek!
I’m going to see if maybe they’ll be into having a quiet dinner with some good wine, my days of doing shots all night ended in college! And I’ve never been into d!ck accessories, thanks!
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2009 - Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe
I think that if you don’t want a party, then you shouldn’t have one. The dinner sounds great. If people insist on giving you gifts, maybe you can tell them you’d like them to donate money to your favorite charity?