(Closed) But it seemed so perfect…

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Which date would you choose?
    August 20 (Wait until you find out about graduate school to set it, though) : (20 votes)
    16 %
    July 9 (This way you don't worry about graduate school) : (48 votes)
    38 %
    August 20 (The date means too much, set it regardless of graduate school) : (56 votes)
    45 %
    Other (I'll explain below) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve never heard of a grad school starting classes that early in the year, but I’m sure it’s possible so I’ll keep my mouth shut!

    I think having your wedding on your anniversary is romantic, not to mention it’s later in the summer so you’ll have more time to work on your tan (if you need one).  πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    i would definately go with aug 20. 7 years is a long time, and it’s considered the ‘perfection’ number in christian circles, so how could you not? getting married on your perfect anniversary? i think so πŸ˜›

    Post # 5
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    690 posts
    Busy bee

    I’d probably do the July date since it would give you more time to settle in as a married couple before facing the unknown.

    I was in a similar situation.  I finish law school sometime at the end of April 2011, have more classes to take starting May 23, 2011, and then start articling right after that until April 2012 (a time period where i’d be afraid to ask for time off work since i want to get hired back as an associate after articling!).  We narrowed it down to two Saturdays in May 2011 (though we did also consider waiting until 2012).  I wanted the 14th (since our dating anniversary was Feb 14), but we ended up deciding to go to Germany for a second reception afterwards, so we decided to go with the 7th.  It ends up being some RANDOM date, but it will work πŸ™‚ 

    Just think – then you’ll get TWO special dates – dating and wedding anniveraries πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Ugh.  That is cutting it sooo close to the beginning of a lot of semesters.  Might you have to move for grad school or did you only apply to schools nearby?  And were you planning on going on a honeymoon right after the wedding?

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t know if you plan on going on a honeymoon or not, but if you do maybe you could make the wedding date in August, but have it close enough to the 20th so that when you guys can be on your honeymoon on the 20th. I like the idea of you getting married on the 20th better, and I personally would regardless, but I’m trying to give you some alternatives. Hope everything works out! =]

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Also, every university should have their 2011-2012 academic calendar online by now.  Maybe you could check them out and see if it would be cutting it too close at any school?  I know Fiance and I have already done this (we’re planning a January wedding).

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Well do you know to which schools you’ll be applying?  You should just check out their calendars if so…I understand why you’re so attached to the Aug 20th date! I’d want to do it then too.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Unfortunately, even if you don’t have to start classes until a little later, you probably will have an orientation week that you will need to attend around that time.  In my program, incoming students are typically asked to be in town by the 15th.  So while I’m sure you could get a Saturday off to get married- you’ll also be in the middle of moving and will likely have school related things that will prevent you from going on any kind of honeymoon if you choose that date.  I love that the date is meaningful, but I think a honeymoon would be more exciting πŸ™‚  I wish I could say just wait until you hear from grad schools, but most won’t get back to you until March-May, and you probably wouldn’t want to wait that long to plan…

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m partial, because Aug 20, 2011 is my date too, but….. in your case, I would select Aug 20 as well. The aug date has so much meaning to you, and most schools don’t start until after Labor Day. I chose this date because I found that flights & hotel prices are cheaper (most of our guests are 2000 miles away) because its considered a “shoulder” weekend in that respect. It’s also not right in the middle of everyone’s planned vacations and is before school starts. However, before you make a decision, be wise and contact your school. Speak to a live person, rather than just look online – you’d be very suprised they may know already their 2011 calendar, but its just not published yet. Also, if you have your venue selected, check to see if either of those dates are available, because you may have to come up with a 3rd date!

    Either way, the day will be perfect & your love is what matters. Good luck with your decision!

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I voted to set the date.  My fiance and I are getting married August 22 the day after our 6 year anniversary and I’m starting graduate school the following Monday August 30. I think you will be okay with that date.  We are even going on our honeymoon the 24-28.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Oh my gosh, are we the same person? Our dating anniversary is August 20 too, but it’s too late in the summer for us to take a decent honeymoon (I’m a teacher). So, we picked July 9, 2011 as our actual date because it’s early enough in the summer to have our desired 3 week honeymoon, but late enough for school to wrap up! I’d say go with your gut, but if it was me (and I guess it is!) I would choose the earlier date just for timing reasons! Good luck making your decision!

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When do you find out about grad school? Since you’re not planning until 2011, you could probably still think about it for a little while. I’m in a similar situation, as well. I found out recently that I got into the some of the doctoral programs I applied to, so Fiance moved our wedding date up. WAY up- we’re now set for August 28th of this year, 2 days before the start of the semester. I’m still a little worried about it on some level, but I think it really is the best decision for Fiance and I, due to some practical concerns. We’re postponing a honeymoon until break time, and to save up some money.

    Basically, what you need to do is look at what’s best for you and your fiancé. If having the wedding and the start of the semester right next to each other wouldn’t really be a huge problem for you (two big events right on top of one another), then go for it and take the date that is already special. If having those two things so close together (and possibly postponing your honeymoon, depending on semester start dates) makes you uncomfortable, choose the date in July. As TealaB pointed out, you’ll have two special dates that way.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Starting graduate school can be stressful, especially if you possibly will have to move.  I would have the wedding in July so there is no rush if you are in the process of moving.  You should probably try to check the academic schedules of the schools you are interested in.  

    I am a graduate student and as best as I can tell, we will start class August 22 in 2011 (based on this years schedule).  That would kind of cut into any honeymoon plans.

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