(Closed) but its a tradition!!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My photographer was actually pressuring us to do this, but we decided against it.  We just wanted to save that special moment and to us it wasn’t the same as what she called "the first look" that we could have if we met up earlier in the day.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

We had a first glance, at my request.  I wanted a private moment with my husband (and photographer) before all the craziness.  The moment was perfect and beautiful.  We got to stand under our arch and whisper sweet nothings in each other’s ears.  We held each other and it was as if we were the only two people in the world.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My Fiance and I have had pressure to get things done beforehand, mainly b/c our reception is at the same venue and there isn’t going to be a lot going on to entertain our guests if we wait to do pictures afterwards.  I was in a wedding not too long ago where the bride and groom had their first looks where the ceremony was taking place.  They were the only two in the room besides the photographer, who caught the expressions the first time they saw each other and a few more before giving them some time alone.  Then we took all the bridal party and family shots so that those were taken care of and none of the shots the bride wanted were missed or too difficult to coordinate later.  Not sure what we are going to do yet; I’m curious to hear what others think!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Unfortunatly our schedule didn’t allow us to keep this tradition.  Had we decided to keep to tradition we would have had a total of 45 minutes to take all of the picutures I wanted.  Even with the extra time I didn’t get all the pics I wanted.

We staged the first time he saw me so we could capture the moment, and the wonderful things is that when he saw me come down the aisle it was as if it was the first time he’d seen me.  We were both grinning ear to ear.

For pictures of our staged "first look" go to http://calioc.blogspot.com/2008/09/wedding-day.html

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are absolutely waiting to see each other until the ceremony.  I was on the fence for awhile but its my groom that wants to uphold the tradition.  He said sure, it will make him more nervous, but wants the first time he sees me in all my wedding glory is as I come down the ailse with my Dad.  Our ceremony and reception are in the same venue, so we’ll only have 45 mins for photos in between.  But thats ok with me cause I really dont want a ton of posed shots. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We are getting married at sunset. There would be no time to take photos after if we waited. He’s having a hard enough time not sleeping in the same bed for one night as it is ( the big sweetie!). I’d like a chance to get that "First Look" photo captured where you can see both of our reactions. But i’ve had pressure with other ‘Traditions’. "What do you mean you are not doing a bouquet toss" "But you won’t look like a Bride without a veil!"… The lists goes on. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. Period. End of story. If your anything like me you’ll regret it later.

 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am totally FOR this tradition. 

Most people I know are breaking the rule, and I know that their moment with they first see their groom is special, even if it’s not when they walk down the aisle. 

But my absolute favorite moment of my wedding day was walking down the moment, seeing him for the first time.  The music was swelling, everyone was smiling at us, and we both had tears streaming down our cheeks as I walked towards him.  I’m so glad we waited for that moment.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

We are doing a first look, but I LOVE photos and want as many as possible. I struggled with the tradition of waiting until after, but I’m going to be so nervous anyway walking down the aisle. So seeing him before hand will help calm my nerves. The timing too will help – we want to see the steel drummer at our cocktail hour!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

I keep going back and forth.  I always thought that I’d want to wait until I walk down the aisle to see Mr. Q, no exceptions!  Then I started thinking about pictures, etc.  I am a very emotional person & will be crying.  I don’t want all of my pictures to be with a blotchy red face (trust me, I am an ugly crier).  Pictures are important to me as well, & I think there is something to having the "first look" prior to the ceremony.

Still debating…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

WE got a lot of pressure, but we waited and it was totally worth it!!  I couldn’t be happier we waited, we still had 2300 pics!!!  Plus the pics of us together are as a newly married couple, not a nervous couple waiting to get married. I took pics with my BMs and family before the ceremony and you can totally tell a difference in the collected, somewhat anxious me before and the super thrilled, married, happy me after!! 

I personally loved sharing that moment with all my loved ones who have travelled so far to be with us.  And a staged first look thing would have felt awkward and cheesy for us – although I know a lot of people love them.  bottom line though, do what makes you happy and what works for you guys as a couple!! Don’t let vendors tell you what to do.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

ooh, and I agree with Quiche! I’m no pretty cry, so hopefully hanging out beforehand will help!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I could have gone either way on this, but my husband was adament about not seeing me until I walked down the aisle.  We built our schedule around that, and it was amazing.  I really couldn’t see his face until I was about halfway down (tears + bad eyesight) but there was a HUGE rush of emotion and it was truly like no one was there but us – I don’t even remember seeing anyone in the seats as I walked down!!!  And the photographer caught his reaction as the bridesmaids were walking down and then as he saw me for the first time.  let me tell you, there is a HUGE difference in his expression – his face when he saw me was priceless and I wouldn’t change it for the world.  There is something so sweet and special about the anticipation building all day and then seeing each other for the first time at the alter.  It was amazing.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was very much for this tradition as well, but Mr. LL really thinks it will make the whole day long and stressful (because we will have all day to get ready for our evening wedding and very little time afterwards…and a day-after shoot is not an option)

I’m a little dissapointed, but I have heard from everyone who did pictures before that it is still a special moment (both the first look and the walk down the aisle.)  So I am conceding. 

We will have the first look videoed and photographed from a distance so we can have the moment ourselves and I’m starting to grow attached to the idea that we will have a moment alone and not feel awkward in front of 200 people seeing eachother for the first time (and Mr. LL won’t feel self conscious if tears come to his eyes)

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