(Closed) BUT- that’s MY name!

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That does suck! Too bad you can’t ask her to change her name. I wonder why she hasn’t changed it?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have never quite understood why you’d want to keep your name the same after a divorce, especially with no children involved — maybe too much paperwork?

My aunt still uses her last name from her marriage that ended years ago. 

Post # 5
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18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry.  At least she isn’t Mrs. G anymore, she is Ms. G.  Doesn’t make it much better but better than nothing!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

honestly i believe it’s too much paperwork. i have two friends at work – one who just got married and another who’s getting married in october.

the one who just got married FINALLLLY changed her last name after having been divorced for 10 years and the other one has been divorced for 2 years and is waiting to get remarried to change hers (funny thing is – the first girl was married to this other girl’s brother so her name that she FINALLY changed is this other girl’s maiden name…lol)

but anywhoo – I know that both girls just said going back to their maiden name is just too much work. but i can’t tell you how HAPPY the first girl was to get rid of that name! and I know my other friend will be too!

I’m sorry though – i know that’d probably irk me to be “Mrs. ***” when there’s another one out there too.

course my weird issue – as excited as I am to become Mrs. H – the fact that Mrs. H is also his mom! ack! lol

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MissAsB….my aunt still used…and was always referred to as Mrs. even though she was divorced.

This is what I got when I googled

Emily Post’s book of Etiquette says, a married woman uses her husbands first and last name after the honourific Mrs.

Mrs. John Smith or Mrs. J.Smith

A divorced woman who continues to use her ex-husbands last name is still entitled to the honourific Mrs. but uses her own first name

Mrs. Mary Smith or Mrs. M. Smith

If she reverts to her maiden name, she also reverts to Miss.

Miss. Mary Jones or Miss. M. Jones

EDIT: Regardless of who has the name…YOU have the man =)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

aww I”m sorry, but hey at least YOU’LL be married to him! Not her, and you’ll have kids with him and live happily ever after lol

Post # 10
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s weird that Emily Post says that you keep a Mrs. when you aren’t married anymore.

I do agree that I see a lot of people who keep their name after getting divorced.  It is a lot of work to change your name once and in the case of my friend, she didn’t want to change it back again within a year.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom still uses my dad’s name.  She said it was so much work changing it in the first place that she can’t imagine changing it back.  It could be career-based though too.  If his ex has built a client base, published papers, or anything else while she was married to him then I think it would make sense to keep the name just for the sake of consistency.

Post # 12
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@JamaicaBride :  You are right!  I just addressed the invite to my aunt (who still uses her married name) and she is technically still Mrs!

Post # 14
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

My Mother-In-Law still uses her married name even though she has been divorced for like 15 years.  And my Father-In-Law has remarried.  Twice.  I think her reasoning is something very pious about her marriage being sworn before God blah blah blah.  I don’t think she was being so pious when she cheated on Father-In-Law.  And had another man’s baby.  Yeah…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can totally relate..,though I feel petty that I even care.  My FI’s ex-wife still uses his name, ten years after their divorce.  Because they had kids, she is still part of our lives.  I just hope that EVENTUALLY she will remarry and take her new husband’s name.  That should solve the problem.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG I am in the same boat!!!  My FH was married before and his ex still uses his last name.  They have been divorced for 4 years.  They have no children and there was no reason not to change her name back.  The last name is not common so it will be strange to see 2 different “Ms. M’s floating around. But we all know how pathetic this woman is.  All I know is that if I was in her position I couldn’t wait to have my maiden name back!

I hope that she gets remarried and gets a new name sooner than later but I have the feeling that she is going to be a very unhappy single cow for a while… god I really do not like that woman!  end rant.

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