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Hello! I’m starting to think about proposing to my amazing partner, and so I’ve been looking at engagement rings. She identifies as genderqueer (meaning neither totally male nor totally female, but sort of in the middle/a little of both), and she tends to dress pretty masculinely. I know the traditional type of engagment ring wouldn’t work for her at all, but it’s not easy to find masculine engagment rings out there. If you or your partner (any gender) has a more masculine ring, could you share a picture? I’ve been looking at various types of eternity bands because they don’t scream “girlie engagement ring” quite as loudly, as well as some more vintagey styles. I think ones with hexagon shapes and thicker rings have a bit more of a masculine vibe to me. Here are some I’m thinking about (all vintage rings from etsy):
Please post yours! Thanks so much!! Anything else you think I should look into?
Post # 2
Have you looked into anything that’s more…like…I want to say rustic, but that’s not what I mean. I’ve seen really cool rings that sort of have…sharper edges and are less feminine than a typical engagement ring. I’m trying to find a picture of what I mean.
I think the ones above are nice, but they feel medieval to me. What about an engagement ring that’s thick, like a man’s wedding ring, with an inlaid stone?
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Okay, this is what I was thinking…now that I see it, I’m not sure, though.
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Out of the rings in your post, I’d say that the first style is the most suitable for your partner. I always found those art deco settings to be somewhat masculine. The second is pretty good too, but it looks a bit too feminine to my eye. And all the sapphires, filigree, and flowers on the third makes it stray from what you’re looking for into the frilly, IMO.<br /><br />I quickly went on Google Images and found an example of a mens ring style that popped into my head from your description. Congratulations, and good luck finding the perfect ring! :)<br /><br />
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Yeah I agree – what about a raw diamond and/or bezel setting? Like this one. I do love the vintage rings you posted as well!
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And I meant to say before I hit post, you should look in consignment and antique shops as well! Good luck!
Post # 9
i like this thread, and i really love the idea of gender neutral or ambiguous jewelry.
love this one, have considered it for my SO, very pretty
mourning rings- i ,know, sounds morbid, but really it was jewelry to remember others, very beautiful and loved deeply.
Edwardian-Victorian rings have a not quite masculine, not quite feminine vibe to many of them
and lastly, signet rings! by being only a single metal tone, they read masculine or feminine, but are different enough in shape to distinguish it from a wedding band (and i think a signet and wedding band would be the chic-est thing eva). you can also get the face in any shape or size, and you can put her initials on it, or both of your initials, or the date, or just leave it blank like its a big ole gold stone.
I hope these help in your search! no matter what you choose, would love to see your final choices!
Post # 10
I think rings like these could work. I would say they’re all either vintage or modern and not super feminine. It really depends on what your partner likes though.
Post # 11
Congrats on your upcoming engagement! You are certainly on the right track. I think there are a lot of art deco rings out there that have a very (for lack of a better word when describing jewelry) “industrial” look with clean lines and symmetry. I love the first two (I actually have that second one favorited on my etsy account! I’ve purchased from her before, she’s a great seller!!) Just because your partner has a more masculine style doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice on beauty 🙂
Here’s a pic of one of my favorite ones on Etsy (already sold, but this gives you an idea of what I mean):
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Wow, these are all so great, thanks so much! I’ve never seen any articles or other threads about this topic anywhere, so hopefully this thread can be a resouce to others as well! I know my partner is super into art deco style rings, and I think the raw diamond wouldn’t be right for her (But I love them, thans @lolot and @peachacid !) Also, in regards to some of the rings being somewhat feminine, I think it depends on the person. My partner can rock a lot of looks and make them very masculine-looking that on other people wouldn’t come across that way. Because of the way she dresses and carries herself, even feminine-ish accessories tend to look masculine/androgynous on her. We’re going to try on rings when she visits in a month (we’re long distance), and so I think it will help me to see different styles on her hand. She says she’ll love any ring I get, but I want to do her awesome style justice, you know? <br /><br />@rosecut – those are all so great! I really like the first one, it’s going to be a contender, I think. <br /><br />@steph_lady – Those mourning rings are gorgeous, and I could totally see that being sweet in the remembering a loved one sense… but for some reason they feel a little creepy to me for an engagement ring. I don’t know if I would be able to get my head around that, knowing that they were originally bought just after someone’s death. But I’m sure some people would be totally fine with that! I also LOVE the constellation ring, it is so amazingly gorgeous and interesting. I’m also pretty obsessed with those Edwardian rings you posted! I am definitely adding “Edwardian” to my list of search terms.
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I really love the middle one, it looks so comfortable and easy to wear. Gypsy set rings might be an option as well. To me that style seems to meld a traditional engagement ring with a men’s band. This is one of the first ones that popped up on etsy, but there are tons of them out there
Edit: I just read your update, this may not be the ring for her then. I vote the middle one!
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I like that ring…but what’s up with that pinky nail????
Good luck! You could always pick something out together. Let us know how it goes. =) I love that you’re looking for something out of the ordinary.
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@vintagelover32 – I have the one you posted favorited too! Great minds! I actually showed that one to my partner and she absolutely LOVED it. I also really love art deco rings. My engagment ring was my great-grandmother’s and also has an art deco feel, so I think it would be nice for the two rings to have that in common. (My partner is planning to get my ring sized for me. It is currently waaaaay too small.)