(Closed) butterfly release

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 4
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the PP, it’s not very nice to the butterflies. You have to buy them from a company and keep them in the fridge until right before the ceremony so that they are cold (and kind of “asleep”?) Doesn’t seem kind.

Why do I know this? Well I went to one of FI’s cousins weddings where the bride wanted to do a butterfly release. Long story short a lot of the butterflies were still too cold to move so they did not fly out of the box. Some fell on the ground etc… It was not pretty, a logistical nightmare and I felt bad for those butterflies. Some of the little kids thought the butterflies were dead as well.

I would not pursue this idea.

Post # 5
2634 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with the previous posters – I don’t like this idea at all.  Please reconsider.

Post # 6
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@ previous posters: She didn’t ask if you liked the Idea. She asked where to get them.


@Tamara: Sorry but I don’t know where to get them…. Do what you Love 🙂

Post # 7
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t know where to get them either but, I can share an experience I had with them. I worked at a hotel in college and many weddings took place. I usually was not there for the actual wedding but from time to time, we would get a butterfly deliver to keep in the frigde for a day or two. Once, I happened to be working when the release took place and it was a disaster. Many of the butterflies were either dead or still too cold to fly and dropped right to the ground. There were a couple of children present who tried to pick them off the ground and set them free. Of course, some fley as planned and I’m sure the bride got great photos but I overheard a lot of the guests talking about he dead butterflies. Also, there were leftover butterflies still in their little boxes that jut got left behing. A colleague and I took the out after and tried to release the forgotton butterflies and I took one home. By this time, more were able to fly becausethey sat out of the fridge a bit longer but of the maybe 20 we had, not all of them were alive. I will always remember that day. Basically, just know that they are living animals and they need to be “frozen” for transport and preservation so it’s not going to be a flawless flight. Aside from animal rights, etc. butterflies havea  naturally short lifespan (some only live a few days) so I genreally feel like that’s not a huge argument but it’s not pretty to have dead things at your wedding and for that alone, I would reconsider. If you still want them, I’m sure Google can help you find some.

Post # 8
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love the thought of a butterfly release, but I must warn you that I have twice been to weddings with them, and both times the butterflys didnt release… Mine flew a few inches and just sunk to the ground… And a bunch of people had dead butterflies…

Post # 9
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Have you heard of the faux butterfly release?  That sounds like a cute idea to me.  As for the real butterflies, it would realy freak me out if the one I got was dead.

Post # 10
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Most will die after the release.

Post # 12
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really like the idea @MissAsB shows..I’d never heard of that 🙂

I was at a wedding once (back a few years ago when the release was very popular) and the butterflys were still sort of frozen or something and it took them forever to fly away and one never did…it wasn’t “beautiful” to me…it was a little weird. I think the idea of the beauty of butterlyfly/dove/etc release is a good one I’m just not sure how well it actually turns out.

Post # 13
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@TamaraLile – We got our butterflies from swallowtailfarms.com (they call it swallowtail farms, but the butterflies are monarchs).  We had a very good experience with them.  They can be expensive, so we chose to do a “mass release” in which the bride and groom open a box containing all of the butterflies, since it’s cheaper and less time-consuming than having one for each guest, (unless you’re having a small wedding, in which case giving each guest their own would be cool!).

Not ONE of our butterflies were dead or injured.  A few hadn’t properly warmed up yet and didn’t fly away right away.  Also, we did NOT keep them in the fridge.  The company sent icepacks to keep them cool, along with detail direction (which are also on their website) on how to keep them cool, transfer them to the release containers or envelopes, and how to warm them up.  The only reasons ours weren’t properly warmed is the person responsible for bringing them to the reception site (after I transfered them to the mass release box at the ceremony site) accidentally got them too close the the ice pack and they started cooling off again.  I don’t consider it cruel at all to keep them cool…it slows down their body systems so they aren’t active.  It’s just like if there was a cold day outside.

Post # 16
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh wow…the whole Google site thing was kind of rude and condescending.

People ask questions here all the time that that could easily be googled, but we don’t usually answer it by posting a link to a google search.  Obviously the OP was looking for personal experiences and recommendations.  Jeez.

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