(Closed) Buy a house or plan a wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 32
Hostess
9764 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@dessilove:  We bought a house first (age 25). Got engaged a year after the house. It wasn’t very difficult to get a mortgage without being married. We both have excellent credit though, so maybe that helped? 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@dessilove:  We bought a house first then a wedding almost three years later. We love our house and we were able to build up enough savings in those years to have an awesome wedding. Honestly though, buying a house together felt like a bigger commitment than getting married at the time!

Post # 35
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@dessilove:  IMO, plan a wedding, and closer to your wedding date see your finances and look into buying a house then? That way you have time to save for BOTH

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@dessilove:  Both? 

Smaller wedding and save up for a house you can afford.  Don’t go into a mortgage that eats up half your paychecks just to have a house. 

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’re buying a house while planning the wedding (my parents are contributing a lot and we’re going to pay for the remainder ourselves). The market is in our favor here and we found a nice house that will work out to be about the same as our current rent so we decided to go for it.

Post # 39
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We started shopping for our house in the summer of 2011 and closed on it in January of 2012. We got engaged in 2013, roughly 18 months later, and we’ll be married in 2015– so we got the house 3 full years before getting married.

We’re having something small since we need to put about $10k into the house this year and I have student loans to pay off. C’est la vie. I’d rather have the house.

Post # 40
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3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We got engaged Oct 12 and bought a house in June 13. We are having a big wedding and a house but we had a lot help from parents as mine are paying for the entire wedding and his loaned us a downpayment for a house. We are students (20 and 22) but I can’t imagine living with his parents. I would have a small wedding and get a house if I were in your situation. 

Post # 41
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1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We got engaged in December 2011, bought our first house in march this year and wedding in 3 weeks!!

Post # 43
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@dessilove:  I don’t think you need to choose between marriage and a house. You may need to choose between a house and a wedding though. Hands down, I’d use my money on a house if couldn’t afford both. A wedding is one day and you will live in your family home for years to come (plus you build equity and get something tangible for your money). Eloping or going to the court house has the same end result and is much cheaper. Then you can have both!

Post # 44
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Buy a house and have an intimate, inexpensive wedding.

Post # 45
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2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Elope (but get a dress and have a photographer!!) and buy a house!!

Post # 46
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2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

for you guys (who are younger and still in school it sounds) I would get married then go for the house later when you have stable jobs in an area you like

 

for us we bought a house during our engagement but it was mainly because our landlord sold our old place (we had planned on staying for about a year more after the wedding) and it was cheaper to buy then rent someting that was similar – I definitely feel like in some way buying the house was a bigger scarier comittment!

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