Post # 31
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
I won’t even plan a wedding in the same location where I was getting married the last time I was engaged… I can’t imagine wanting to wear the same dress.
I sometimes wonder if my ex reused the engagement ring or the stone on his new wife. They wouldn’t take the ring back, and so at one point, he had an earring made from the diamond. I never met her before he passed away, so I have no way of knowing. It was a gorgeous ring It was the only thing I was really sad about giving back.
Post # 32
I would buy a new one, I dont believe in bad juju existing more than where you let it, but I guess I am too sentimental and I would not want my wedding dress to have any connection to a previous ex what so ever! Just start out on ablank paper!
Its more likely that you will feel weird about having your own gown on than that you will regret buying a new one for this wedding! Its worth the money just to know it is not the same dress that was ment for another man and another marriage. Whatever your Fiance says, I am sure he would apprechiate it. The same thing that i said earlier applies on him as well, its a bigger chance he’ll feel weird about you using your old dress than feeling a new one would be a waste!:)
Post # 33
I also had a dress from a previous engagement, and went through the same “do I or don’t I” confusion. In the end, I did get a new dress. It just…didn’t feel right to wear the other, for me.
That being said, there’s no rule against it if you still love the dress and are comfortable with wearing it. But it doesn’t really sound like that’s the case for you.
Post # 34
I won’t care, unless he cares. Which he won’t unless I (you) tell him about it, or he finds it sitting there lol. I don’t believe in bad juju that comes from my own life, the only dresses I wouldn’t buy are those that seem to be “cursed” (2 or more brides were divorced after wearing the same dress).
I wouldn’t even mind buying a preowned dress from someone’s broken engagement. To me, a broken engagement is different from a divorce. (because you obviously wore the dress for the divorced wedding)
Post # 35
I would wear it if you love the dress, but that doesn’t seem to be the case? If you want a new dress, get a new dress. You deserve one you love!
Post # 36
Here is the gown. I still do love it but I would be happy with something new too.
Post # 37
summerrain123 : OMG… you look BEAUTIFUL. I don’t think I’d be looking any further. A dress as an inanimate object. The way I see it is not connected to your marital happiness but YOU must feel comfortable wearing it on your day and you should FEEL as magical as you look!
Post # 38
Wow, that’s a beautiful and looks great on you! It all depends on how you feel and what your gut is telling you. I never had that “this is THE dress” magical feeling when I was dress shopping. I bought my dress because my mom loved it and I felt like it was the most flattering. Now looking back at pictures I absolutely LOVE my dress. Maybe go and try on a few more dresses and see if you find anything you like better…?