Post # 1
I have a dilemma bees, I’ve fallen for a dress but am slightly nervous about buying since my wedding isn’t for another two years. I’ve had this style dress in mind for over a year, and can’t imagine myself in a drastically different cut or look (I love a soft/lace fabric without too much bling). I also know I want the emphasis at my natural waist, and an A-line skirt that’s not too big so I can dance!
Is it too risky to spend my dress budget 2 years ahead of time? And should I trust my gut with the dress I love (dress A), rather than the one my mom prefers slightly more (dress B)? I want to be logical since it’s a lot of money to me, but I also don’t want to miss out on my dress!
Dress A (Wtoo Delphine):
Dress B (at David’s Bridal, can’t find the number):
Post # 3
I admit, I prefer dress two, but dress one looks really pretty on you as well.
I would wait to make the purchase. I don’t think there is anything wrong with buying a dress two years early, but it has to be the right dress. If you’re still debating between dresses then you’re undecided.
Post # 4
I prefer Dress A on you, however I do think you should wait. It doesn’t hurt to spend some more time trying on what you think you’ll like – and what you don’t think you’ll like – and see where you are in a few months. Waiting doesn’t mean you have to wait a year – it could mean waiting 2 or 3 months – but at least get a little bit more dress trying under your belt to make sure you’re 1,000% sure instead of just 100% sure. This is coming from someone who had a 4 month engagement and dress regret – I wish I’d had some more time to try on dresses and see more options.
Post # 5
I bought my dress about a year before my wedding and dealt with a great deal of dress regeret. That being said in the end it really was the perfect dress for me and I put myself through all that stress for nothing.
I do think two years is a bit soon but only you know how much you love the dress. I do prefer dress A over B, the lace is really stunning.
Post # 6
Both dresses look wonderful on you…but 2 years is a decent amount of time, and styles/trends could change. I look at it like a cell phone, as soon as you buy one you love, a new, fancier one comes out and you have to wait two years to get it (unless you shell out $600).
As long as you are absolutely sure that you won’t be swayed by new trends or look at other dresses that could tempt you, and will love the one you choose now even in two years, I say definitely listen to your instincts!
Post # 7
If you think you love the dress enough to love it two years from now with no regrets then go ahead and buy it. That is unless you are a person whose weight is prone to major fluctuations yearly.
I have to warn you though… I bought my dress about 2 years ago. My Fiance and I pushed our date back twice so I’ve had it since we started planning. I still love my dress although I did have a little dress regret at one point (over that now). My advice is to not look at the dress boards after you’ve bought it. My biggest concern now is whether or not I’ll fit into it. I was about 195 lbs when I bought it and it was a wee bit snug. I then lost 20 lbs, but have gained 10 back so I’m not sure if it will fit. Weight fluxuation was not a problem I had previously.
Post # 8
Do not buy that early. With the number of dress regret threads I see on here I wouldn’t risk it! I cried at my first dress, thought it was the one but had severe regret when it came in. I ended up exchanging.
Post # 9
I would hold off – 2 years is a LOT of time to obsess and second guess your decision. FWIW both dresses are beautiful on you but I actually prefer the 2nd one.
Post # 10
I like dress #1, but also think that both styles aren’t that “out there” or unique to warrant buying it two years ahead of time. Dress regret starts settling in a few months after purchase for a lot of people, and I think waiting two years would be a bad idea lol. If you do end up still liking this style in a year and a couple months from now, there will probably be a lot of dresses like that out there.
Post # 11
I think it really depends on a lot of things. Can you afford Dress A right now? Will it fit in your wedding budget?
Also, what about your weight and all that? Has it fluctuated significantly over the last few years? Can you think of anything that you’re planning over the next 2 years that could cause your weight to fluctuate? The only reason I ask is because I bought my grad dress (grad here is like prom in the US) a year out, I got it at the end of grad season for an awesome deal (like a $300 dress for $60). I ended up going one size bigger than the size I tried on as the one I tried on was a little snug. Fasf forward one year and the larger size almost didn’t fit. I ended up having to do some crazy diet/exercise the weeks before grad to shed a few lbs just to be able to sit/walk in my dress (it was a tight mermaid style).
If you LOVE the dress, can’t imagine a nicer one, have the money and don’t think your weight will change, then order it.
Oh, another option too could be to ask the shop how long they think the style might be available. If it’s a new design they may be able to order it for the next 6 months, then you at least have time to think about it/explore your options/save up for the dress….
Post # 12
I bought my dress 17 months in advance. It will come in a little less then a year before the wedding.
If you absolutely love the dress and know its the one you want to wear then buy it. I did a lot of shopping; I wanted my dress and had to try on 90+ dresses before I found the one and I have no doubts its the one. If you can be confident and know you will be happy with it in 2 years go for it; but one big word of caution you have to stop looking at dresses if you choose to buy it. Otherwise we will see you back on the dress boards because of regret.
Post # 13
Don’t do it! Two years from now the styles, your likes, wedding venue etc are all subject to change! Plus, almost everyone suffers from dress regret 😉
Keep trying on things and taking note things you like, but wait another year until you commit 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks for all the advice and for bringing me to my senses! Seems that a lot of people have dress regret even when they didn’t expect to. I’ll wait a while longer and try on a few more dresses before letting myself buy. And while it’s right at my budget, maybe there’s a chance I can get it at a sample sale by then =)
@futuremrste: Not really worried about changing weight, but great advice about checking with the store to see how long it will be there!
Post # 15
Both look AH – mazing on you and I love both equally the same, although the sash on the second dress is special 🙂
I say wait til closer. You can keep falling in love with dresses even when they’re not in your wardrobe.
Post # 16
I think they are both gorgeous but I do like A better however I would say to wait, not because I think you will fall out of love but it will give you time to find that dress at a better price, chances are next year it will be wayyy cheaper since it won’t be from the current season anymore and that will give you more money to spend on other wedding stuff