Post # 1
This is my first post so please be nice to me! Haha just kidden! I just want to start by saying I have been stalking weddingbee for the past year and a half because i just love weddings! I am not getting married or even getting engaged. I am only 20 and am not in any rush what-so-ever! lol! I have had a boyfriend for the past 2 1/2 years and there is no doubt in my mind that one day I will marry him. But as of now we arent making any serious plans.
Anyways sorry for the short intro, I just want opinions from you ladies about me possibly buying an engagement ring now.. Now before you start telling me that’s ridiculous hear me out please! haha
I understand that under most circumstances it would be very rude and insulting to the man if I bought my own ring and trust me I can’t believe I am considering this but…
here’s the thing, there is a ton of engagement rings at this auction that I have been looking at lately. Now I know you are thinking that buying an engagement ring at an auciton is ridiculous, but these rings are absolutely gorgeous!! and they are worth between $10,000 and $15,000!! and they are Canadian diamonds.. to absolutely die for!!! Now because they are at an auction these rings can go for as little as $1000!
… So I am considering buying the ring now, and giving it to my dad. Then when a guy asks for my permission to marry him my dad will give him the ring. Then my guy could take the ring to a jewler and get the diamonds reset into whatever setting he chooses …
Opinions ladies, am I crazy?
Post # 3
a little ridiculous, sorry!
if you want a right hand diamond ring though, go for it.
Post # 4
I don’t think you should buy a ring now. Save your money. Are you still in school?
There is also the old saying “if something sounds too good to be true, it usually is”. The older I get, the more I find this to be quite true! 🙂
Post # 6
I vote get yourself a PrEttY right-hand ring!
Post # 7
If there are auctions now, there will be auctions when you’re ready. I don’t necessarily think getting a ring this way is ridiculous, but I think it goes in the “file that to speak to my future-fi about when he makes noise about proposing” pile. But if there is other jewelry there I say go for it! 🙂
Post # 8
Yeah I mean why wouldn’t you buy a 10,000 plus ring for 1000. If ya have the money go for it!
Post # 9
Hmmm… I think if you want to buy a right hand ring, go for it. But your future fi may enjoy finding a ring himself, or your tastes may change before you get engaged. I think most guys also have a ring before asking dad. While it seems exciting to think about now, I think buying a ring for yourself will take some of the fun out of getting engaged.
Post # 10
Normally I am all for not necessarily doing things the “traditional” way, but I’m not sure about this.
It’s not because you want to buy and choose your own ring, to be clear, it’s because you’re doing it when you don’t even have plans to get engaged!
Post # 11
That money could definetly be put to better use. Enjoy your time now, you never know what the future is going to hold. I am sorry, I do think it is a bit ridiculous; people change, tastes change etc. Like a PP said, there will always be auctions in the future.
Post # 12
Buy a right hand ring. Let him buy you an engagement ring. If you want to do something in the middle, buy the ring for yourself as a right hand ring and then if SO ever decides to propose and money is tight offer up the diamonds for him to put in a new setting.
Post # 13
Welcome. I wouldn’t buy your own engagement ring when you’re nowhere close to being engaged. No way. My tastes changed A LOT in my twenties. The right hand ring idea is more appealing.
Post # 14
If it sounds too good to be true it usually is… when people say that an engagement ring is “worth” a lot more than what it is selling for that’s because all appraisals/valuations are inflated and sellers can use these valuations to manipulate their sales. Trust me, if you bought one of these rings and then tried to sell it you wouldn’t get any more than what you paid for it. Therefore they are not “worth” £10000. I know you aren’t buying this as an investment but you get my point… don’t buy into their sales tactics.
As to the buying your own engagement ring… I’m not at all against women contributing or even paying for their own engagement ring (it’s whatever works for each couple individually). However in your case, I wouldn’t say you are buying your engagement ring since you are not about to get engaged… if you really want to get one these rings then just buy it (after having made sure you aren’t being blinded by the sales tactics) and either wear it as a right hand ring or keep it for future use… this “future use” may indeed end up being your engagement ring but I wouldn’t call it that right now.
Post # 15
Right now isn’t a good time to buy a ring. Your tastes will change when you’re ready to get engaged. It will also take some of the specialness out of getting the ring.
Post # 16
I understand your idea. And I get that you would then allow your Fiance to pick whatever setting he wants with that diamond and therefore it could still be special and he gets a choice in picking it out.
However, I agree with the other ladies that other auctions will come along. I would tell Boyfriend or Best Friend now, if you think you will get engaged in the future about these auctions. Then when the time comes he might decide to go to the auctin and buy one of these rings for you.