Post # 17
Fiance and I have had fights over that sort of thing before. It really bugs me to be put in a position where I only have one answe I’m really allowed to give without looking bad… like when we’re out with friends half the night and I’m exhausted (I always get tired first) and he says to me, in front of everyone, “can we go to [another place] or do you want to go home?” with a clear intonation suggesting what he wants. Last time we did that we had a BLOWOUT fight when we got home…
My policy since then has been to straight up tell him when he’s not asking a fair question.
Post # 18
that’s a good idea 🙂 but yeah i would tell him it’s his money, spend it on what he wants
Post # 19
TOTALLY Understand where you’re coming from. My man bought car parts instead of my Engagement Ring and he regrets it every day! Just let him know how you feel and tell him to evaluate how he will feel about it in the future. I think it was selfish of him to even ask you that question to begin with and I think you should tell him that.
Post # 20
Perhaps I’m a bit harsh… But if my man would rather buy headphones than save money to buy me an engagement ring, I would be offended by his priorities. Waiting is pretty much hell and to make me wait while he has everything he wants makes my stomach ache. If I am making sacrifices, he should too- our relationship should be mutual. If he rather have a new pair of headphones I would think he probably wasn’t very serious about marrying me. But… if he saved the money for an e-ring for me, then I would buy him the headphones as a gift- bday, anniversary, Christmas, whichever is soonest.
Post # 21
Thanks everybody, I really appreciate all your insight!
I did tell him he was putting me in a really awkward position by asking, and he understood and apologized.