(Closed) Buyer’s remorse! I hate my wedding dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yuuuup!  I’m right there with you. I bought mine mostly because of the reactions my friends gave to it, so I kind of caved.  I knew it wasn’t for me, but I just got swept up in it.

I added a sparkly sash to mine (a big part of the problem was that it gave me no waist and I feel like my hips look GIGANTIC in it) and that helped.  It makes me sad to know there’s a better dress for me out there, but I’m at the point where I realize (since it was nonrefundable, pay 100% up front) I can’t change it so I have to like it.  I’m also trying to tell myself that we’ll do a vow renewal in 10 years and I can have my REAL dress then.

I’m so sorry you don’t love it, but see if maybe a few more tweaks can get you to the point where you like it.  On the day of, I guarantee your Darling Husband will think you look beautiful because you will be his wife!

Post # 4
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is it something you can belt or add something to to make it feel a little better. I have the same problem, more with the fit than the dress, and am trying to sell my dress and find another before October. So maybe you can post the dress or a link to the dress and see if some other brides can give you opinions on what you can do to make it different. I hope you can compromise some kind of way.

Post # 5
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@travelerkate: Thats the same way I felt. My friends were gung ho so I caved and went over budget. Wish I had of went with my gut. I’m happy the belt helped though.

Post # 6
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

Can you post a picture of your dress on here?  More people might be able to give suggestions on how to fix it if they could actually see it.  🙂

Post # 7
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure you look darling in it and are being overly critical of yourself. Have you tried everything on together (hair, makeup, veil, jewelry etc)? Also, something that helpes me, if you think your dress is too plain or weird, go look at pictures of real weddings. Even the dresses I don’t care for look great if the bride is owning it and extreamly happy. Just own it and love you and you will look amazing on your big day!

Post # 8
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you afford to buy a 2nd dress for the reception?  Something fun, like a fancy white prom dress from some place like Deb or Glitz or even JC Penney has Homecoming dresses out right now.

Be a 2 dress bride!

Post # 10
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

you dont look fat but it doesnt seem to show off your figure!  I do believe that a sash or maybe have it taken in at the waist more.  The dress is beautiful and simple, so you can def dress it up with a sash….but while I dont agree it makes you look fat I do agree its not as flattering as it could be….you look like you have a nice body hidden under it.  But I dont think all is lost.  Try to even just tie a ribbon on the waist, maybe even a splash of color to get an idea…have it pinned tighter on the waist.

Post # 11
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255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

you look amazing! Add a sash and poof out the bottom with a petticoat!

Post # 12
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Firstly I am being honest in saying you are NOT fat!! I would LOVE to have curves like yourself. Every bride has the right to feel beauitful and amazing on their wedding day. If your not ‘feeling right’ in your dress go shopping again and buy another gown off the rack. Best of luck.

Post # 13
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know exactl how you feel btw….my Fiance chose my dress and while its a beautiful drress, I didnt think it was for me.  After buying it all I could think about was what a mistake Id made.  I got the call the dress was in and refused to go try it on!!  I finally scheduled and didnt let anyone but him come with me and the day before went on about how I was going to llok like a cow with a circus tent on!!  Im in a wheelchair so it makes it that much harder for me…but when I tried it on it actually wasnt as bad as I imagined!  It did need alteration but it hid my unwanted curves and it didnt flip over my head when I sat down….lol….and he is happy.  I am making some jewelry/hair changes as well to aid in my liking it.

I do believe your dress has hope, dont be afraid to play around with it.  Have you considered puffing out the bottom just a bit, so all the fabric doesnt just drape down?  that will def change the shape of the dress iself too.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you look lovely in your dress, but I do think that either a sash or even a belt with some bling woudld lift it a little and perhaps give you more of a waist?

It is honestly flattering tho, and I think you could definitly tweek it to look better.

 

P.S I tried on a very similar dress and the minute I added a belt with some bling it did lift it. Good luck!!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mhackney21:

 

It shouldnt necessarily be about what HE wants…yes it is both your wedding days, but you still need to feel good about yourself too!

 

 

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