Post # 1
One of my co-workers was complaining about the wedding registry of another co-worker, arguing that everything is too expensive. Her complaint seems to be based on the opinion that if you register for mutiples of something, that the guest are expected to buy all of that item. For example, if a couple registers for 12 wine glasses, the guest is expected to buy all 12 as a gift, and to buy any less than the full set is rude.
This doesn’t seem right to me, and I know that I have definitely done this (bought a few of multiples), but she is older than me (by 5-7 years), so maybe she knows something that I don’t.
What do you all think? Is is rude to not buy the whole set? Do I come off as rude and cheap if I don’t spring for all of them?
Post # 3
If they are in a set, I understand buying them all but I wouldn’t buy 12 place settings if they are sold seperately.
Post # 4
i think for something like wine glasses, yes you should buy all of them. placesettings are different, but you should buy more than 1. if they’re crystal or expensive wine glasses, or there’s nothing else you can afford on the registry, i think buying 6 out of 12 would be okay.
Post # 5
You can buy one or all of any registered item according to your budget. The registry will be updated and other guests will know how many are outstanding.
I know that I, as a bride, would rather get 4 or 6 of my wineglasses than none, just because we registered for 8.
Post # 6
I definitely think it is okay to only buy a few of an item rather than the entire set. A lot of people that I know put $80 wine glasses on their registries. I think buying just 1 might be a little odd but a pair of glasses and a $160 gift is really nice! I think a lot of brides realize that a single guest won’t purchase the entire set of more expensive items.
Post # 7
If the couple registered for 2 packs of 3 dishtowels, for instance, I would be ok just buying one pack. If it’s something like place settings, I think they need to be bought in multiples of 2.
Post # 8
I think it’s totally fine to not purchase the whole set, and I think the couple knows if they have expensive taste and probably don’t expect someone to buy 12 $50 wine glasses. Getting 2 is perfectly acceptable. When it comes to place settings, I actually bought one once because it was so expensive. Other people will know how many outstanding settings/wine glasses, etc. there are from the registry, so they can purchase part of the set as well.
Post # 9
I think it depends on the price of the object. Expensive crystal glasses, I would buy two at a time and call it good. I don’t think any bride can expect 1 guest to buy 12 wine glasses at $80/pop. If it’s six wineglasses at $3 each…you should just buy them all.
Post # 10
ok i didn’t register for wine glasses, so i didn’t realize they could be $80. if that’s the case, buying 2 is definitely fine!
Post # 11
I think it depends on the cost of the individual items. No one would expect one guest to buy all 12 of the $60 place settings of dishes but it would come off as a little odd (IMO) to only buy 1 or 2 of a set of 8 $5 items for instance.
Post # 12
I agree with what others have said. As someone who is just now setting up a registry, seeing how expensive some items are, and knowing how not all of her friends can buy whole sets, I would be elated that each friend would buy something for me, while staying within their budget.
Also, registrants get discounts on unpurchased items in their registry. So if they get 6 out of the 12 wine glasses they want, they have up to a year to use a discount to purchase the other 6 wine glasses, as well as other items.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No single person bought us more than 2 of our 12 place settings. We got our set of 12 wine glasses in two separate gifts of 6 wine glasses. We got 8 of our 12 sets of table linens from two different people.
What I’m saying is, I think your coworker is wrong. 🙂
Post # 14
You buy what you can afford. That is all.
Post # 15
lefeymw said it perfectly. i wouldn’t worry too much about that…just give what you can
Post # 16
You do not need to buy more than one of an item when there are multiples on the registry. A pair of glasses is nice, or a place setting.
I registered for what I thought were sets of 4 place settings and were acutally individual settings. Needless to say they went back to the store, but at the shower before I realized my mistake I was gifted one place setting as a gift by several people. I also registered for 3 sets of tupperware since we take our lunches and I tend to lose them and we were gifted one set as an individual gift; not all 3.
Does the wine really taste better drinking it out of an $80 wine glass though? Maybe I’m just cheap.