- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Hi not here to solicit but I do work part-time at a bridal shop, but I will not name which, because I am not here for that unless it’s something specific.
I am a former bride trying to help people find their way getting through dresses. I love wedding dress shopping.
I have been lazy and haven’t posted my wedding photos either.
So here’s some helpful tips. If you aren’t buying David’s Bridal or online (read: be very very careful). Buy as soon as you can, save anywhere from 6-10 months.
Designers (in the range for 1-4K cost) all only carry a few of each dress in stock. Usually it’s only 1-5 in the common sizes. If it’s not in stock the lead time can be 1-7 months depending on a billion factors.
It is really hard to find a dress you love, have a low budget and be picky. One of the categories will have to budge a little. I am not certainly saying you have to spend a lot to get exactly what you want, but in all honesty I have seen it dozens of times, that a budget is too low and too specific. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t. Most of the time you can find what you want if you look hard enough. At least be honest stay in your budget and know what you can get for that price. Slinky Gatsby dresses with a lot of embellishments? Designers know its trendy and don’t discount it. Also along those lines, are you worried you’re not getting the best price? If it’s in season and not discontinued the variation should only be about 2-5 percent above MSRP. Most designers frown upon discount the dresses at all, even for veterans, military or public service. And I don’t mean this is something they complain about. They can shut down their line for a store and have all their orders cancelled. One exception may be during trunk shows, and that is limited as well. Trunk shows can be fun, as the designers or sales reps can come along and their knowledge is very helpful.
You have to try on dresses in the store. I’d say a minimum of 3 preferably 5-7. Unless you get in one and come to tears in excitement immediately, you at least have to try. Why? because trying other dresses reassures you that you or don’t like the dress. You can look at dresses online until you are blue in the face but nothing compares to what it’s like on.
Most dresses will not fit perfectly once ordered unless its custom or hollow to hem. Unfortunately dresses are modeled for 5-10 height women. It will be long.
Sometimes you cannot get exactly what you want with the right fit unless you alter. And alterations suck. It’s a scary process, but please be realistic. Everyone wants to be and look perfect, but sometimes no amount of cuts and sewing can change specific things about your body. They will do their best but be nice, its tedious hard work.
We all have our own style and idea of what we want to look like. If there is something that a dress consultant is adamant about there is usually a good reason (read: getting a white dress) . We have seen enough dresses come and go to know what is often a catastrophic mistake.
Most wedding dresses are not white. (What?) Well they are sort of, they’re all ivory. In our last year we have sold 1 actual white dress and a few diamond whites, which is an exception. For whatever reason Ivory is the new white. And Bridal dress white is often like a sheet of paper, it has a blue tinge that often doesn’t work very well in lighting and photos. Diamond white is best for satins or taffetas though. Again I have seen it first hand, being adamant about white, with a strong advisement against, and finding the white is just not right.
Things you should have before getting into serious dress shopping: What silhouettes do you think you like? Is there something you are looking to hide or accentuate? Are there any fabrics you love or hate? Necklines? Ivory or another color *typically, café, mocha, blush, light gold, champagne, or something kooky J. And don’t be afraid to try something out of your comfort zone, because you just never know. 70% of the time a bride changes their mind once they are in something else! Oh and in this thread, unless your wedding venue is really REALLY different or a church there is no such thing as matching the dress to the venue. I have seen ball gowns on beaches, in forests, gardens and in wine caves and the Ritz! As well as sheath dresses in all the latter as well. I have seen mermaids, fit and flare and ball gowns in barns too! It’s also about how you accessorize, too. An exception is a back yard wedding but then again you can make it work. Now this also is not to say that certain dresses seem to compliment certain venues.
Planning on losing weight? Great, but realize its added stress. This is a big area where dress concerns can get out of control. Be honest, our best successes are usually people who are already good about their eating and fitness habits or who have a trainer. Its a lot of added stress if you have to fit in your dress. The best rule of thumb is that its easier to take in than it is to let out.
Bridesmaids and MOB is a whole different store.
Lastly, relax, try to enjoy it. Surround yourself with supportive people during your trials and not too many though.
When do you just get to go and try on beautiful dresses? Any specific questions feel free to hit me up. The main thing is I love helping people with questions. I love weddings and I honestly never thought I would!
sorry for any typos, it seems my browser isn’t being helpful ATM.