Post # 1
So today was only my second time trying on dresses. I was only with one other friend because my sister and mom aren’t in town until next week. I tried on about 5 or 6, and there was one that I just loved and decided it was perfect for my wedding! Problem was, it was discontinued and the only one available was off the rack, from $1200 to only $500. I felt like I had to make a choice and I bought the dress.
Now, I’m feeling so guilty. I made an appointment to go with my mom and sister next week but I wasn’t planning on next telling them I bought it until after they decided they liked it. I feel like my mom will be upset if she knows I actually BOUGHT a dress without her there. I keep thinking of it as a “deposit”, because I can always exchange the dress for store credit on anything, but I know she won’t feel that way since I actually have it in my posession already (well, my friend has it and is gunna bring it to the store next time).
Should I just tell my mom I bought it?? How do I go about this? Has anyone else bought a dress without their moms there because they just felt like they couldn’t let it go? I’m almost feeling like even though I love it, I should just find another dress purely for the reason of having my mom be there when I find it. Also, I’ve only been engaged two weeks, so maybe I’m rushing …
Post # 2
I was there, when both of my daughters chose their wedding gowns, but I was paying for them. If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t care. It was 100% their decision anyway.
P.S. My 1st daughter got engaged after dating her husband for 8.5 years. They had ordered a custom designed ring, which took over a month to make. We went gown shopping, for the 1st time (and last – she made a decision within and hour), 2 weeks before the ring was completed.
Post # 3
futuremrshayes14: I think honesty is the best policy. You went ahead of the appt with your mom and bought a dress. If your budget allows you could always get a second dress and sell the first, or have it as a reception dress.
My mom was with me when I found my dress, and it does make it extra special for both of us.
I’d suggest telling her the truth – you know moms, they see right through us anyway. LOL
Post # 4
futuremrshayes14: I purposefully waited to go dress shopping with my mom and sister sowe could share that experience. That said, you didn’t and now you have a dress that you love. Be open and honest with your mom. She might be hurt (hey, actions have consequences) but she might be so very excited for you. Would she be bothered by the deception of bringing the dress back and “finding” it? You know her best.
eta: I bought my dress without my mom, sisters or bridesmaids there. They did see it after and all think it’s gorgeous. No one cared.
Post # 5
I should’ve waited, I just really had absolutely NO intention of finding anything it was just supposed to be a fun trip to try things on. I’m debating just returning it now even though it’s perfect because I feel so guilty. Ughhhhhhhh
Post # 6
futuremrshayes14: Don’t return it!! I bet your mom will understand. She knows how exciting dress shopping can be and that you were excited to go. I would explain it exactly how you explained it here–you loved it, you didn’t want to risk losing it (especially at such a great price), but that you could exchange if you found something else. So now, with her, you are doing the “real” final dress shopping–is that the one or do you want a different one? She still gets to be involved in the final decision….you just a made a reservation on one.