Post # 1
For Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor and the other BMS are hosting the bachelorette & bridal shower. The grooms mother is also hosting a family bridal shower. Between all so parties am I still expected to buy a gift when I go to the acutal wedding.
this gift giving is confusing me a little? I’m already going to get a Bridal shower & a bachelorette party gift and we are going on a girls weekend trip so should I still be getting a actual gift for the day of the wedding? Would it be tacky if I didn’t get a gift for the day of the wedding?
Post # 3
@dessilove: what about a really thoughtful and heartfelt card? or a small token for her to remember from the day? It doesn’t have to be expensive, but I’d probably do a little something,
Post # 4
No it wouldn’t be, as long as you’re going to al lthe events. I would just get them a nice card for the wedding.
Post # 5
I received gifts from all of my bridal party members, but I don’t know if that’s the norm or not. You should absolutely be getting her a nice card with a handwritten note, but a truly gracious person never expects gifts for any event.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Traditionally, yes, you would get another gift for the wedding itself.
But nothing says you HAVE to, it’s your money, if you’ve spent enough on the other items, then don’t buy another one. Perhaps give them a nice card or something else that’s inexpensive.
One of my favorite gifts was a card with a wine bottle stopper from one of our guests, it wasn’t expensive or fancy, but it was a hand made treasure she’d found at a little shop and thought of me, I now think of her and smile every time I use it.
Post # 7
You’re already hosting the shower and helping the bride out at the wedding. I would just give them a nice card.
Post # 8
@dessilove: As Maid/Matron of Honor I co-hosted a shower, gave a shower gift, traveled to a semi-destination wedding (as one of only a few guests) so payed for travel & hotel, helped with tons of DIY for the at-home reception, set up & broke down the reception. I did not give a wedding gift because by that point it seemed like I had spent a lot and did so much stuff that the service was my gift.
Thus- I think a card is fine.
Post # 9
Just do a card! I didn’t know what to expect from the bridal party in terms of gifts but I had some that gifted for shower, bachelorette, and wedding and some that didn’t gift at all!
Really, I think getting the proper attire, being a good friend, and showing up to events is what matters when you’re in the bridal party. That said, a nice heartfelt card is always appreciated especially if she’s a nice bride!